Its doesn't have to completely be a challenge or game like that. Or, if it is, you will need to read an entire body of literature for each separate person you want to get to know. When it comes to romantic relationships, the difference between every single person is on a universal magnitude, there is no way you can generally prepare. There is not a ground to stand on with these things unfortunately, there is just the predilections and desires that were instilled in you as a child, and those of every other person in the world. We are all 10 billion air-gapped black boxes of desire. Don't try to hard, just listen and be patient.
So you agree they probably are romantically interested. I understand why these relationships could feel rewarding. I'm not sure it's totally healthy behavior.
It's interesting because when two people have a mutual crush, and you are told of the crush, you won't know if they were told unless they mention it. So you have a confirmed connection of some sort, but you still need the balls to act on it. Or maybe you won't act on it?
Think about it the other way too: They were told, but you weren't. You think she just doesn't crush you, but maybe she did and you weren't told. What if she was told and she starts flirting with me?
A romantic interest isn't really compatible with deep focus work, IMHO, so I'd argue that you're better off not attempting to maintain one in the first place.
I shudder to think about your love life, if you solely define your relationships on sexuality alone. Sexuality is a step from an emotional state to a physical expression of that, of course outside of prostitution and casual hook-ups. And I don't mean that in a negative way, I just...feel sorry for you.
Nobody said anything about a romantic interest. Most people’s relationship with people of the opposite gender are not romantic at all. Why would this be relevant to bring up?
To try to put it in a nutshell: However many professional connections you have, you are probably confident they are, in fact, professional connections and not just giving lip service to the idea until they can spring it on you that what they were really hoping for is romance.
Anyway, thanking you for engaging with me. It's been a good exchange.
I think if I’m interpreting your comment correctly you are correct. Physical attraction is what you mean instead of romance. Romance by itself is simply a series of steps you use to express your continuing interest in a partner or possible partner. Small gifts, kind words, charming activities. Those are romance, and I think are critical to Maintaining a solid relationship (all couples may find different things romantic—-some people may want sunset sails on the harbor, some people might want kebabs from round the corner).
I think the implication is the guy doesnt actually share the interests but can pretend he does to appear like he has something in common with her. The tactic isnt new or anything, just a bit easier to pull off.
Basically I try not to do anything that would be confused with one of those things.
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