Ok. Happy to see it is that kind of trouble, and not something far more disturbing. Good on you for taking immediate action after becoming aware of the problem.
Thank you for your input. I'll be more direct when issues arise and have a set of rules for conduct ready. Hopefuly you're right about repairing the relationship.
Thanks! Reconciliation isn't nescessarily out of the question. I expressed in no uncertain terms how unhappy I was with a few things earlier, we'll see if my concerns are addressed or not.
And that stinks. For everybody involved. You can only do your best.
But it sounds like you're writing them all off, writing the problem off, as something that's just unavoidable, untreatable. It can be both avoided and treated, it just doesn't always work.
I hope with you but that looks like something that needs attention, don't wait too long with addressing all this, once tempers get frayed it is a lot harder to re-establish a dialogue.
I appreciate the input dang (your username always makes me chuckle in a good way), but I have said enough already on HN it would be trivial to connect the dots. I need to think about how to proceed. I probably shouldn't have said anything and in the end the OP is better off so that's a win, things seem to poke me a little harder than they probably should anymore and I know my perspective is not some universal truth.
I hope very much you update us with your solution. Forgive me for not sounding as empathetic as I would like, but the bemused tone of your posts here has me cracking up. Good luck with this situation.
Thanks, that's good advice. This happened in 2004, and back then I just wasn't as up on this stuff. If it happened now, I'd definitely approach the situation much better.
I'm rather appalled by the smug "this is easy to fix" or "the problem is all in your head" attitudes exhibited by some posters here. This Shit Is Hard.
Much sympathy for what genuinely sounds like a very unpleasant situation, mattman, and please don't listen to the people saying you're bad and wrong.
Please don't criticize me. That's not why i posted this. i posted this because I would bet that Someone here has dealt with this Exact issue in the past and they know how to deal With it.
That's not refusing to deal with it, merely saying that you may need some time to do exactly what I suggested (seek information and advice) but you are dealing with it.
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