> Although they have not met each other again since, she continued to provide him with financial assistance until he completed his degree a few years ago and got a job in the American oil sector.
Wishing them both the best of luck with this. It's a great reminder that despite having money, people can still run into difficult relationship issues.
The article makes it seem much more bizarre than the list actually was (based on what I read at the bottom).
He just wanted her to treat him as if they were seperated, but still living in the same house. I’m really not sure about all the washing and cleaning stuff, but it seems sort of regular if one brings in the money and the other stays at home (presumably taking care of the children). The only exciting thing there is that he wants to eat in his room. If you stay together for the children then why discard the one moment you share with them?
> Like many women married to very wealthy men, she didn’t know much about the family accounts.z
Makes it sound like she married him for the money, but she didn't[0]. While it turns out she really didn't know much about the accounts[1], she help start the businesses that made the money[2].
[0] > Robert Oesterlund wasn’t born rich, either. When Pursglove first met him, on a cruise ship off Helsinki in the ’90s, he ran a struggling flower-import business.
[1] This is truly stupid. In a marriage, a couple should share completely all of this information. Otherwise, do not get married.
[2] > Living in Florida and New York, they started a series of companies. Oesterlund came up with most of the ideas, Pursglove would later state in court filings, and ran the companies day to day. Pursglove hired the employees, trained them and helped manage the offices.
I was a bit less impressed as I found out more about his situation. She wasn't just paying for his writing, she was paying for him to be a stay at home dad and take care of all the mundane stuff that kept their family operating. It's impressive that she never questioned him or gave him a hard time, but it sounds like he was holding up his end of the bargain.
While true, it's not like this wouldn't have happened eventually anyway. Were they going to keep this relationship secret from her parents forever? How well would that ultimately work out?
They dated for a long time before then and she actively had to meet with him in a work context for the famous BillG reviews. She's done interviews talking about how it was managed and how she wanted to be seen as still pulling her weight.
His goal was to create a sustainable relationship with her, and therefore he proposed a new set of expectations of her in consideration of his household cash flow. She consented to them; she wasn't forced to. This resembles a typical "live-in servant" relationship. The only strange part is that this falls out of a prior arrangement/agreement that was considered a "marriage" relationship. It's obviously no longer marriage in spirit, so why all the judgment of it that way?
No idea if what she says is true ... what's their relationship like since forever ... others who knew them could tell us. She says he ruined her financially ... how so ... he's a multi-millionaire. How did he ruin her financially that's suspect right there!
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