Tinder has a point but no way am I trusting a self-reported statistic about the 1.7% of it's users who are married. I'm sure married people looking for side action are being super honest about their status.
There's multiple upsides: you don't become another slab of beef in the meat market. You don't get profiled and that profile sold. You can't be a target for mockery on Reddit/FB/etc.
I mean, I get it, sex is fun. But it's never required an app.
Bullshit. Women use Tinder for sex, not to find a spouse. For some guys it seems hard to face the fact that many women just like sex, a lot. Source: several women I've talked to.
To add a data point to this, I'm happily married to someone I met on Tinder. Without the two of us using dating apps, there's a near zero chance that we would've met.
Tinder doesn't sell sex. It sells access to a Skinner box with intermittent positive reinforcement and frequent negative reinforcement where the reward is human connection.
I can't upvote this enough. HN is known to be very negative towards Tinder.
My first marriage ended with my wife divorcing me. We have 3 kids. On my Tinder profile I made it very clear I'm a dad. I'm not tall and not that handsome.
I'm a developer, so I don't meet that many single women in real life. Tinder was excellent. I met my current wife on Tinder, and still happily married years after our first Tinder date.
My wife is a relationship coach, and has great success with women. But the men are just uncoachable. They are not able to find a relationship, and still know better when an actual women tries to tell them what women want. Crazy.
At first glance, Tinder sounded like some end game dating opportunity.
While its first users were embarrassed to say they were doing online dating, I reassured them- Its fine! Find your SO!
Years later, it seems to have turned into a world of unmet expectations.
When its incredibly easy to find a date, people don't seem to try as hard to make things work. They find flaws and compare. The worst offenders never seem to be happy.
Admittedly, it might have also further shrunk the pool of "the good ones", where the only people left have bad jobs, drug problems, and incredibly high expectations.
On another note, I'm wondering how it has changed Sex. It seems sex has never been easier to have due to these dating apps. I wonder if people will be able to settle down.
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