Probably people who don't believe men can experience these things allied with people who believe men can experience them but see it as un-manning them. Humans are weird.
I'm ... not sure what to make of this. I'm not a woman, so not qualified to comment as such, but I can say without question that I've had to struggle through many similar issues, just take sex out of the picture - everything from watching classmates apparently breeze through classes that I've had to take four times to wondering if my career success is just because I'm a white American male.
Edit: I took a risk saying something like this, and have some karma to burn, but please, if you downvote, at least say why.
I know my comment will be deemed unsubstantive but I have to say: as a man I felt identified in that text, all women I've been with were like that. That's why the idea of consent feels so alien to me: it goes against my very experience with the (different) women I've been with.
Can't speak for women, but I don't feel particularly "erased". Or normal. On whose behalf, precisely, do you imagine yourself usefully intervening in this way?
The fact that your partner does not report having that experience does not literally mean that she has not had that experience. There are several possible reasons for this, and I do not want you to think I am passing judgement, but your statement is not convincing on its own.
I have watched this happen to women who were oblivious - who behave as though men stealing women's ideas is the proper way of reality, and yet they will loudly voice an objection when a woman does the same.
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