Is that not how a human's perception of love is? Even if you think you're the most logical person in the world you find it hard to explain why you feel so much for a random person. Seems very realistic
Yeah, I really don't get what's with all these Data-from-Star-Trek style discussions of drugs and emotions and love. I couldn't believe this was the top comment... who on Earth is using reason and logic to fall in love?
Love is the most common one in the west. The idea that you can know another person completely, and that your strong feelings are proof of future dedication. Love is ultimately just feelings, and in a more logical society we wouldn't value feelings that evolved to make us pass on genes and anything but a strange quirk. Many people can even recognize that others are probably just fools in love, but they are always convinced their love is really a supernatural force rather than a simple feeling
Exactly. I can't personally understand people falling in love with, or having some kind of sexual relationship with an AI companion, but I can absolutely understand profound loneliness and the sorrow it must cause people to be suddenly rejected in this way.
The breadth of human experiences contains sadness that many people cannot even imagine. You may have people here who have all kinds of extreme difficulties forming regular relationships and yearn to be loved. Before we dismiss them we should consider that we have absolutely no idea of their past and how they got to this point. We should try our best to be kind.
You're right though, different people probably do have a very different experience of love. Some people say they do not experience romantic love at all, some people can't imagine romantically loving more than one person, others are sure that they're fully in love with multiple people at once.
It's impossible for me to say conclusively that someone is wrong when they're talking about their own experience of feelings.
The alternative to this is not "lives confident healthy awesome life without love", it's - as the article details - falling head over heels with some poor real girl who has been misled over the internet and who then turns and runs when they meet up in real life and she discovers the truth.
There are a lot of people posting in this thread who seem to have fortunately never fallen in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. There's no rule that says love has to be wholesome and balanced, sadly. Whatever process causes love inside us doesn't always work like that. Having run the gamut myself, I'd rather these men fall in love with an AI that at least talks to them and helps them, than some random girl in a café or online who simply shows them contempt.
Care to explain? This sounds like wishful thinking. When love is merely a chemical reaction and all of your emotions are, why can't this be simulated in some way?
Yes it feels a bit reductionist... "Love is merely a series of chemical reactions, therefore I should be able to compute text that elicits these reactions in a person and makes them fall in love with me."
Here in the West, romantic love has seemingly been canonized. It's something which our culture effectively worships as some kind of oracle of an ultimate underlying truth. This is also why there is so much irrational thinking and bad thinking around love, romance, and relationships here.
Love is indeed a profound experience which will change how you view the world. However, Love is not a god. It's not an oracle unto truth. It's not to be worshiped. It's not a reason to turn off your rational brain. Anyone telling you otherwise, especially about that last one, is either trying to sell you something, or was told that by someone who is. (I suspect you're being downvoted by such zealots.)
The feeling of romantic love is a part of a greater whole. A relationship has other sides to it, like the companionate and practical aspects.
Extending your discussion, love is nothing but chemicals firing in our brain. Maybe human beings are evolved to trigger release chemicals in the brain when certain conditions are met, which could possibly be deterministic? I agree that each person is different, but we're all same in the same way. Think of the attraction to the opposite sex as a seeded random number. Sure, we don't know the seed but if you know a person well enough you're able to make fair judgement and confidently claim that "X isn't Y's type".
I'd love to continue discussion on this philosophical point. "Love" is afterall nothing but an abstract construct which has proven beneficial in furthering the species when we were being chased by lions and bears.
People are different, maybe provide a little bit of attention to somebody that have never been loved can go a looong way in my humble opinion.
It is just extremely broad as argument.
I personally feel a lot of attraction to people just because the click well with my thoughts, but I know from experience that this is extremely dangerous and difficult to manage.
That's what usually happens, I guess. I remember from an old Steven Pinker book that there is a theory that love is a necessary craziness, because without it we would constantly be looking for better mates (the rational thing to do). That would explain why falling in love makes people do silly things, because they demonstrate "I am crazy, therefore you can trust that I will stay with you".
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