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You seem bitter and frustrated. It’s clear in your text.

Part of that is understandable. They probably didn’t do a great job interviewing you. It’s probably exasperating.

But I can’t imagine someone who gets so easily frustrated writing about an interview would be great to work with. Because you could’ve just as easily criticized the interview process without bringing the exasperated tone along the way. With clarity and a measured response. But you wear your heart on your sleeve and it’s one of clear annoyance.



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You sound unnecessarily angry and your interview style seems far more formal than it needs to be.

Think their issue might be with you? ;)


Your reaction says lot more about your attitude than it does about the OP's. I found the article interesting and informative, with none of the passive/aggressive overtunes you mention.

Your lip service about finding diamonds in the rough and catering to candidates who are nervous or can't think on their feet leads to just one comment: "Put up or shut up."

The OP has given us a very good, concrete example of his interview process, the traits it reveals in candidates, and how he tailors it to meet individual candidate reactions. Until you do the same your comment here is nothing but five paragraphs of whining about how some people don't interview well.

To which I reply, "Duh."

We all know the 45-60 minute interview is imperfect, and that both interviewer and candidate are just trying to make the best of a very contrived interaction to begin with. So, please, lose the attitude and give us something we can learn from rather than bashing the OP with vague generalities.


The thing that appears to me, most overpoweringly, is the bitterness.

I understand, I've felt bitter about interviews before, I'm sure some interviews were unfair. But I also recognize this bitterness is a weakness of mine, unproductive, unattractive.

The way the author indulges in this resentment would make me very cautious about recommending him regardless of technical capability. An employee who has low tolerance for the massive randomness/unfairness in the world probably would get sick of most companies pretty quickly.


I truly don't understand how you got that from what I wrote. I want the interviewee to succeed, so I'm a jerk?

I'm sorry you feel this way. I was only trying to help someone who asked for help. I can't change my experience. The only thing I can do is elaborate on what I meant and provide examples and specifics about what constitutes not appearing to want a job very badly. But you're not asking for those things. Instead, it feels to me like you're trying to pick a fight by jumping to conclusions about my tone, which I don't really know what my tone is as written in text or why it's coming across as so negative to you.

I'm not talking about the difference between just wanting a job and over-acting like it's the only thing in the world. I'm not talking about fawning over the interviewer or pretending like there are no other jobs. I'm talking about people who come into an interview with an overtly negative attitude and say things that make it explicitly clear they could care less about the job and make it explicitly clear that they expect less experienced people to adapt to their ways and not the other way around. This is not the norm of my experience, I am referring to the worst interviews I've ever had, and summarizing the reason in what I thought was diplomatic language.

I suspect you're getting confused by my trying to use mild language and be somewhat nice and forgiving about the kind of interviews I've had. When I say I've interviewed people who don't appear to want the job very badly, I am exaggerating in the positive direction. These (few) people were outright antagonistic to the idea of being adaptable and getting along with others.

There's no way you could know these things based on what I wrote. But there's also no reason you need to assume the worst either.


I used to get mad because I was taking it personally. However, over time, it's become abundantly clear that I'm either overqualified and the interviewers are just not that great or there's a major shortcoming in the interview process. It's sad that it happens so often, but for some reason like many things in the world the interview process is optimizing for the wrong things.

Wow, someone's bitter they didn't pass an interview.

So I can tell you're pretty upset about being treated this way, and I can sympathize with the frustration. But maybe my point will be better received if I clarify it to make it more concise. In essence:

1. You are responding to these kinds of interviews as though the interviewers are malicious, self-aware of their biases and intentionally trying to personally offend you. But it's not personal and not all interviewers are trying to conspire like this. Consider that what you're feeling and perceiving may not be intended by the interviewers.

2. As a corollary, your relationship and responses to these interviewers are retributional and deconstructive instead of educational and constructive. You're writing off companies because their interviewers offend your sensibilities. But just as interviewers don't have enough information to know why you're reacting the way you are, you don't know if they're trying to be as demeaning as you feel they're being.

In other words, not all companies with suboptimal interviewing methods are shitty companies. Probably most are not! Given that, the way you're reacting isn't just a sensitivity to personal offense, it's getting in your own way professionally.


On the one hand the idiocy and incompetence in these interviews is not unusual for corporate hiring of all kinds. So it's reasonable to be infuriated.

But there's more than a hint of narcissism in the writing. Which is incredibly toxic to work with, because every interaction becomes less about solving problems and more about aggressive assertions of dominance and superiority.

On the upside, if he's as smart as he wants to be, he'll be able to solve his problem.


I think I was just venting this morning more than anything, I have to assume my interview went worse than theirs or I’ll just end up incredibly bitter.

Sounds like your interviewer just a a grudge against you or something.

Through the interview you seemed more annoyed with the questions than excited about your product.

I'm going out on a limb here, but perhaps it's your attitude. It comes through very clearly in your post, and likely a lot more so in person.

I've interviewed dozens of people over the years and the easiest way to be disqualified is to come across as being difficult to work with.

I understand your position, and your frustration, but I'm sure you could have found a more pleasant way to phrase what you said above.


You realize this sounds hostile right? I can’t see a single person granting an interview after receiving it. Even if I like the hiring process you describe here the tone comes across poorly.

I'm not sure why you think what I said means "desirous of concluding the interview process quickly", because I didn't use most of those words and you appear to have pulled them from thin air; frankly, that's weird.

They gave you plenty of criteria; they gave you a book, and the understanding that they wanted you to be able to talk intelligently about the material that the book covers. If you're so incapable of self-introspection that you can't accurately judge how well you understand material without external validation, then you should probably work on developing some self-awareness before getting upset that a company doesn't respond to arbitrary requests for meaningless information.


Were you able to complete the problem within reasonable time, otherwise?

As an interviewer, I get frustrated if the candidate wastes time writing excessively prolix text while missing the meat of the question. This is by no means an excuse for hostile conduct, and the additional context here makes it clear the interviewer is kind of a jerk in addition to being narrow-minded.


So you ask for advice, and when you get advice you argue why the advice is wrong. Lol. I can see why interviews don't go well for you.

Sounds like the interview did exactly what it was supposed to do: weed out substandard applicants who can't follow directions and are difficult to work with. I would've tossed your ass out too. When multiple interviews are turning out that way, it may not be the interviews that are the problem...

If you've only failed two interviews then you really are not trying hard enough.

You are being thoroughly rude and arrogant and oblivious I suggest, and I'm going to stop responding to your posts because I am just getting angry. I suspect that I am not the only one here to feel that way.

Stop waving your willy at me and others, and go back and read what you have written, carefully, as if it had been written TO you not BY you. If you did not intend to be a troll then I suggest you should revisit how you communicate.

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