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thomasz · 2022-11-26 13:01:02

Absolutely not. To a degree that both parties might walk away feeling a bit disgusted.

hotpotamus | karma 3714 | avg karma 1.32 · | 2023-10-01 06:50:38

If you polled me, the answer would be no. I'm not exactly unhappy about it either, but I'm conflicted enough about it that it's not something I will do to another.

icey | karma 29080 | avg karma 7.11 · | 2009-08-05 17:13:40+00:00

I don't really think anything bad will happen in this example. I'm just saying in general it's one of those things that makes me uncomfortable.

TheGirondin | karma 272 | avg karma 1.99 · | 2016-12-16 17:32:06+00:00

It's ok if the other does it?

ben_w | karma 20467 | avg karma 1.69 · | 2021-05-16 14:00:28+00:00

‘Course not. Regardless, I observe[0] that people find transactional attitudes towards intimacy to be creepy — denouncing people for feeling thusly does not make them like it.

[0] I am aware this is mere anecdotes

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jamongkad | karma 954 | avg karma 1.55 · | 2008-06-17 07:30:01+00:00

Nope I personally find it distasteful to do so.

bitmunk | karma 81 | avg karma 2.02 · | 2023-01-30 22:45:10

Would you find their behaviour acceptable? Would you find it positive?

bitdizzy | karma 276 | avg karma 2.12 · | 2021-03-12 15:16:52+00:00

No, obviously it would not be okay. What point are you trying to make?

dsego | karma 9522 | avg karma 3.12 · | 2021-09-21 10:11:46

Yes it's okay for this example. I think it can get out of hand.

manuelabeledo | karma 3944 | avg karma 2.54 · | 2022-01-30 16:17:35

This is a really odd question.

Outside of old fashioned gender roles, yes, it's perfectly fine as long as you both agree.

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skore | karma 2720 | avg karma 3.27 · | 2013-06-05 20:50:17+00:00

To that person, yes.

The question is whether or not we're cool with that. Most of the time, yep. Some other times, nope.

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krageon | karma 5600 | avg karma 1.5 · | 2021-03-24 11:29:05+00:00

Off-topic subject aside, for the vast majority of people the answer would be "yes". That still doesn't make it okay, but I feel like it highlights why that's not a good way to divine whether or not something is ok.

emodendroket | karma 21781 | avg karma 1.83 · | 2017-08-19 13:58:38+00:00

I don't know if that is really morally objectionable either.

dorianmariefr | karma 355 | avg karma 1.15 · | 2022-04-29 02:05:55

Yes I think it would make most people uncomfortable

vinchuco | karma 3695 | avg karma 3.78 · | 2018-06-21 15:11:03+00:00

Not if it makes enough people uncomfortable.

krakensden | karma 3890 | avg karma 2.94 · | 2013-01-02 14:22:57

Certainly. It's what you do after that's problematic.

user5994461 | karma 11133 | avg karma 1.81 · | 2017-06-09 14:39:46

No. I think it's inappropriate behavior.

benj111 | karma 3842 | avg karma 0.84 · | 2019-05-05 13:14:43+00:00

Surely it would depend on whether the speaker thought it was acceptable or not?

jayferd | karma 959 | avg karma 3.65 · | 2013-01-14 01:42:22+00:00

Yes. And it's one that's completely okay if handled correctly, like any fetish.

skybrian | karma 22817 | avg karma 2.5 · | 2022-10-14 17:55:29

In principle it could be okay if everyone agrees. There may or may not be something wrong with it, depending on what they agreed to and if they’re lying to anyone about what they’re doing.