Yeah, fire the wife!! How come she says that instead of supporting you?? I guess she didn't contribute with anything to your success but probably swallows money like a shark.
But then you have 4 kids with her :(...you're kinda trapped there.
Every single success I have right now is due to my wife's support. She is my partner in everything. When I worked at a startup, she suffered. When I am successful in something it's because she's there sacrificing with me. The reason that Bill has a flat line in marriage is because of his relationship with his wife.
Do you think he could have taken that hate without her support? Do you think she didn't feel awful because of the change it brought in her husband?
An equal and supportive marriage means that every sacrifice is made together. Don't trivialize how much she took on even though she wasn't the "face" of the company.
You're making marriage into a "competition" and it's not. It's two people working at a team, and no not every marriage is like that, my hope is that Bill and Melinda have that sort of marriage.
I'm sorry to have to be the one to tell you this, but those promises fly out the window as soon as times get tough.
No matter what you think she thinks of you, when the kids come and times get tough, she will look at you and weigh having you around vs. having automatic custody of the kids + child support + alimony.
Us men with wives like this are empowered beyond measure. Treasure your wives gentlemen. When I was thinking about making a change in my career my wife immediately said do it and supported me 150%.
I wouldn't be the person I am today or have the success I have without my supporting wife.
Give up your dreams and spend the rest of your life locked away in a cubicle? Maybe you should just get a new wife instead, one that isn't so high-maintenance :)
Can you explain how OP‘s wife is subjugated? I’m ex Microsoft. My wife is a better programmer than you and me put together. She stays at home with the children voluntarily. I told her if she wanted to switch places, I would stay at home with the children. Is she subjugated? Would I be subjugated if I stayed at home instead?
Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company.
This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she's not coming, and said "I took a gamble and lost. I never thought you would actually get an offer".
Now she's refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she's living in on the east coast (in addition to rent for my apartment in the Bay Area), wants me to pay for 20 flights per year across the country so she can visit friends and family, and has called me every mean name in the book.
So my career is going great but my marriage is falling apart.
But then you have 4 kids with her :(...you're kinda trapped there.
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