The thing that helped me, when I felt the indecision paralysis come on, is to just do something and accept that it may be wrong. You often don't know the best decision in the first place because you lack experience. Doing it the right way by accident, or making the mistake of picking the wrong way helps get you that experience. Be deliberate about always doing something, and over time the paralysis will get less and less as you gain more experience.
Well-stated -- and (at the risk of over-complimenting), very close to the absolute zen of self-driven learning.
I’ve found it useful to think of not-deciding as a decision. Right now you’re feeling paralysed and unable to decide. But, in a strange way, your decision is to avoid making a decision. Maybe that’s going to protect you from pain. Or maybe it’s going to close doors. Maybe it’ll do both. But thinking about not-deciding as a decision has helped me consider whether that decision to not-decide is working for me. YMMV, of course. I hope things work out for you, whatever route you take.
I completely get your point & at the same time it's really important not to be paralyzed by the need to make "the perfect choice" and act quickly in a moment of urgency.
There needs to be balance between taking some time to make an informed decision and acting today rather than pushing it away for later!
As with all advice, some people are on the other end of the spectrum and need the exact opposite advice.
You may be indecisive because you truly don't know enough about the options and need to do your research to make an informed decision. Don't overdo it, just do enough. How much is enough is not easy to say in general.
It's a short life indeed, worrying on what decision to make and postponing will only make it worse.
Consider the statistics of decision, in general and simplified. In any abstract decision, there is a 50 percent probability that the correct or constructive choice will be made. If the correct path is taken, obviously no problems will exist. If the incorrect selection is made, it will become evident. When it does, there is a 50 percent probability that the choice can be reversed and the constructive path substituted in its place.
Therefore, there is only one chance in four, at the most, that an irrevocable direction may be taken in decision making. All vital decisions in the history of man have been made on much worse odds than three to one. Some were as high as one in twenty and came out positively.
To move away from the null point of indecision, take the position that any action or decision is better than none at all, based upon the odds of three to one.
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