I am not a very good looking guy. I go to the gym at least 3 times a week. I am not overweight as well. Only strike against me is my premature baldness. I personally don't think it is such a big deal now. However, when I was in SF, it was a big deal for most of the women.
All you talk about is what you look like and then you claim to be looking for a serious relationship. Relationships are not just for good looking people and although women can be just as shallow as men, they generally have a different set of biases about looks than men have.
Here is a secret that many people seem to fail to grasp: A relationship is based on relating. In order for that to happen, you need to be talking to people -- and not on tinder. That's a hookup app. It isn't likely to lead to marriage.
You need to get a social life. You need to learn to talk with women just because they are human beings and not because you met them on tinder. You need to learn to let them decide what they like about you. If they have a problem with your baldness, then the answer is "Shallow bitch. NEXT!" and stop wasting your time. Not every woman will care about that.
A good place to start is to get some hobbies, as other people are suggesting. Or even strike up conversation with people at the gym -- and not in a creepy "You are a girl, and I am only talking to you hoping it will lead to sex" kind of way. Just talk to people. That is the absolute first step in establishing any kind of relationship at all to anyone on the planet.
All you talk about is what you look like and then you claim to be looking for a serious relationship. Relationships are not just for good looking people and although women can be just as shallow as men, they generally have a different set of biases about looks than men have.
Here is a secret that many people seem to fail to grasp: A relationship is based on relating. In order for that to happen, you need to be talking to people -- and not on tinder. That's a hookup app. It isn't likely to lead to marriage.
You need to get a social life. You need to learn to talk with women just because they are human beings and not because you met them on tinder. You need to learn to let them decide what they like about you. If they have a problem with your baldness, then the answer is "Shallow bitch. NEXT!" and stop wasting your time. Not every woman will care about that.
A good place to start is to get some hobbies, as other people are suggesting. Or even strike up conversation with people at the gym -- and not in a creepy "You are a girl, and I am only talking to you hoping it will lead to sex" kind of way. Just talk to people. That is the absolute first step in establishing any kind of relationship at all to anyone on the planet.
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