I think the open secret is that prostitutes don't count, because the sex isn't about having orgasms, but about having one's merit validated. They must earn the thing that they cannot buy. Sex is the ultimate compliment, being chosen by a woman who dubs him worthy -- ideally, the most desirable woman (as perceived by other men). And for many, the more the better -- a second time doesn't count as much.
They generally don't get that, and will give other reasons why they can't just hire somebody. But I believe that's the real reason: it's the one thing that they cannot buy, and therefore matters most when they have all the money in the world.
This way, it simultaneously objectify women making us basically boardgame victory token and simultaneously giving women too much power or too much consequence of having sex.
The assumption that the decision to have causual sex is somehow result of valuing the dude is imo wrong.
Indeed, another common false assumption is that sex is something women don't want, especially casual sex. They're invested in the idea that sex is something a woman has to be bribed into, preferably with a lifetime commitment to her and her children.
Not only is that incredibly demeaning to women, it's self-defeating. If they could just believe that many women actually enjoy sex for its own sake, if they can have it without being abused, harassed, and stuck alone with the consequences, they could get themselves laid a lot more.
They generally don't get that, and will give other reasons why they can't just hire somebody. But I believe that's the real reason: it's the one thing that they cannot buy, and therefore matters most when they have all the money in the world.
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