> the idea of trusting and leaning on someone who sees me once a week to do job and get paid seemed just wrong
It seemed wrong to me at first, too, but eventually I saw how it made sense. The aspects of the relationship that would normally be fraught with fear and uncertainty -- is this person invested in my happiness, will this person respect my confidences, will this person use what they know about me against me, will this person turn against me if they learn my shameful weaknesses -- are encoded in their professional obligations. That's not enough for it to be a great working relationship (you need some personal chemistry as well) but it's a great foundation to start from.
It seemed wrong to me at first, too, but eventually I saw how it made sense. The aspects of the relationship that would normally be fraught with fear and uncertainty -- is this person invested in my happiness, will this person respect my confidences, will this person use what they know about me against me, will this person turn against me if they learn my shameful weaknesses -- are encoded in their professional obligations. That's not enough for it to be a great working relationship (you need some personal chemistry as well) but it's a great foundation to start from.
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