I think that "stop treating an old free software community shared by hundreds of other people like a property" would be a good start at understanding the community wishes. Right now, it seems to me that you're treating Freenode with a wrecking ball as a part of a demolition squad, and only stop to say "sorry about the new policies!" now and then before continuing to destroy it.

The things that are being implemented now aren't the community's wishes, they are your wishes, and they are hostile to the community that once inhabited Freenode and its channels.