I am a father myself. You need to weigh between letting your children learn things by doing and forbidding. Usually, when I see something I deem dangerous, I tell my children to be careful then carefully watch them. If I feel they don't take it seriously, I try to create a controlled dangerous situation.
One of my sons is autistic and when he was small it was very difficult to tell him to be careful of the stove. One day I made the stove not really hot to seriously burn the hands but only very slightly. After I put my own hand on the stove, I let my son touch the stove and said, Hot, hot hot! And it was successful. He didn't burn his hand but it hurt somewhat.
Another example: he doesn't swim but pushed his brother into the water at the pool. I then pushed him myself then jumped in the water to save him and told him, be careful, you can't swim.
The idea: see what is dangerous then decide: can your children play by themselves, do they need watching or do you need to forbid it? Before forbidding something please try to give the children time and watch them. If they learn a dangerous thing you will save time later because your children have already learned.
One of my sons is autistic and when he was small it was very difficult to tell him to be careful of the stove. One day I made the stove not really hot to seriously burn the hands but only very slightly. After I put my own hand on the stove, I let my son touch the stove and said, Hot, hot hot! And it was successful. He didn't burn his hand but it hurt somewhat.
Another example: he doesn't swim but pushed his brother into the water at the pool. I then pushed him myself then jumped in the water to save him and told him, be careful, you can't swim.
The idea: see what is dangerous then decide: can your children play by themselves, do they need watching or do you need to forbid it? Before forbidding something please try to give the children time and watch them. If they learn a dangerous thing you will save time later because your children have already learned.
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