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I think you have it backwards. The majority of people don't tolerate the minorities. Go on autism or trans reddit. It's full of people desperately trying to figure out how to fit in. It takes very little effort to respect people who are different from you.


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> The majority of people don't tolerate the minorities.

The majority of people don't know, and don't care.

> Go on autism or trans reddit. It's full of people desperately trying to figure out how to fit in.

Obviously, beacuse people who figured out how to fit in just fit in, and don't hang out much on such subreddits. On those boards, you're dealing with a minority within a minority.


> Obviously, beacuse people who figured out how to fit in just fit in, and don't hang out much on such subreddits. On those boards, you're dealing with a minority within a minority.

Social difficulty is probably the most common affliction of autistic people. I've met extravert hypersocial autists, but they are very much the minority of the minority.

From the second line of the wiki article for autistic spectrum:

> Other common signs include difficulty with social interaction


It takes a lot of effort, actually. For instance, Im a minority in my current country: cant speak the language well (Chinese), cant write nor read much, dont look like them at all, work in high level jobs they cant relate to for the most part, and am European to a fault in almost every belief system that matters.

So, what should I or they do ? Tolerate me, they could try, but shouldnt I ... fit in more ? Learn more seriously the language, dress more like them, marry local, put my kids amongst them, or even leave and live amongst my peers ?

I think it s impossible to ask a majority to tolerate me beyond very basic human politeness. My religion, my culture, my beliefs are so foreign for the majority, 1.4bn people, that the most efficient way for us to live together is for me to change and adapt a lot more than for them to do so.


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