Your point is completely valid, however, the challenge is expectations/intentions. It's one thing if both parties are seeking the same thing; it's another if they aren't. I would venture a guess that many times there are misalignments. In some cases, these may be conscious (somebody is looking for casual dating on a marriage-oriented site) while in others, they're unconscious (individuals believe they're looking for a serious relationship when in reality they aren't ready for one).
Using the author of this post as an example, I wonder how well aligned her expectations and intentions were with those of her 45 first dates. Note that in one part of her post, the author refers to "meet[ing] someone" while in another part she refers to leading an "active dating life." Although you can obviously expect to meet multiple people before you meet someone with whom you want to start a monogamous relationship, these might be two different pursuits.
The questions around expectations/intentions are even more intriguing in light of the fact that the author says almost all of her dates looked like their photos and that she didn't have "any especially bad CMB/Hinge dates."
Using the author of this post as an example, I wonder how well aligned her expectations and intentions were with those of her 45 first dates. Note that in one part of her post, the author refers to "meet[ing] someone" while in another part she refers to leading an "active dating life." Although you can obviously expect to meet multiple people before you meet someone with whom you want to start a monogamous relationship, these might be two different pursuits.
The questions around expectations/intentions are even more intriguing in light of the fact that the author says almost all of her dates looked like their photos and that she didn't have "any especially bad CMB/Hinge dates."
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