> in the UK at least, on average two women a week are killed by a current or former partner
And a hundred men kill themselves every week in UK. Suicide is often associated with relationship abuse, if an abusive woman makes her spouse commit suicide then that is also murder, but it wont go into the statistics. It is important to realize that women can also abuse men, and that this can be just as damaging even if the bruises aren't always visible, the psychological damage can still be enough to make them kill themselves. And false allegations is one way for women to abuse men, it is extremely powerful since it will ruin many of his friendships making him lonely and more likely to kill himself. The more people she can take away from his life the more likely he is to kill himself.
Note I'm not saying that we shouldn't protect women, just that we should also work to protect men.
p.s. since you mention gay couples, worth noting that 94% of male partners killed in DV are killed by women. Also that 41% of lesbian couples in Australia report having experienced abuse by same-sex partners, 29% for gay men (AIFS, 2015) and even less for hetero women. Yet, government and the radical feminists dominated DV organisations in Australia still keep pushing the line that only men are violent.
> * In Australia, Canada, Israel, South Africa and the United States, between 40 and 70 percent of female murder victims were killed by their intimate partners.
Why is that a bad thing (except that you're killed)? If with men, the percentages are not so high, and the rest are killed by random people, then surely women are better off - it's easier to investigate murders, find and punish the killers, even prevent murders.
Violence is not exclusive to murder. Men are socially shamed for being victimized by women. My experience with sharing my stories of abuse have led me to completely hide it away from anyone; I will be judged as weak, incompetent, emasculate, or worse. To the best of my knowledge on the topic there
hasn't even been much serious inquiry into male victimization[1].
I do not doubt that given their significantly higher natural testosterone men have both a greater raw rate of violence and more incidences reported.
That said, Intimate Partner Violence carries significant psychological trauma. You are completely downplaying that trauma, focusing on only the most extreme and rare cases.[2] 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men report having experienced Intimate Partner Violence.[3]
Thinking about a typical victim of college dating violence, you're probably imagining her, not him.
Yes, that's because the typical victim of dating violence is female. The article doesn't seem to show any sense of proportion, as if the existence of a woman abusing her male partner "disproves" research concentrating on the much more prevalent case.
For example, from wikipedia:
Men kill their female intimate partners at about four times the rate that women kill their male intimate partners. Research by Jacquelyn Campbell, PhD RN FAAN has found that at least two thirds of women killed by their intimate partners were battered by those men prior to the murder. She also found that when males are killed by female intimates, the women in those relationships had been abused by their male partner about 75% of the time.
I don't like when a problem that is largely committed by men to women is equivocated like this -- "it could happen to anyone!". Well, yes, but it probably won't.
That isn't sexism, similar things happens all the time in gay relationships. Similarly men murdering women in relationships is not sexism, since gay men murder their partners at a higher rate than straight men. So it isn't sexism, it isn't about men hating women, it is just about men committing a lot more brutal violence on average. Or in this case, it is just about men being a lot more forceful about sex than women, even when they are proposing to men.
Yet, Women are also more likely to kill there intimate partner. (This flips if you include ex partners.) Which may seem like a surprising statistic, but women often feel the need to use weapons to equalize a physical situation. Which can easily turn deadly.
Of children under age 5 killed by a parent, the rate for biological fathers was slightly higher than for biological mothers.[4]
However, of children under 5 killed by someone other than their parent, 80% were killed by males.[4]
Males were more likely to be murder victims (76.8%).[4]
~ 1 in 4 women and ~1 in 7 men will be victims of severe violence by an intimate partner in their lifetimes.
Except humans aren't rational actors, driven by statistics, and obviously the women who were murdered can't be interviewed. But if there are more stories out there about women being murdered by a partner, and the stories are amplified by the news, it's easy to imagine this could have an effect on perception of the danger of a non-murderous but angry former partner. As to whether this is measurable in a sociological study, I have no idea.
This is the unintended consequence of a lifetime of hearing that men are dangerous and might kill you. Threats are everywhere, says the media, constantly.
This is really misinformed comment. Aside from the specific case here, in the UK at least, on average two women a week are killed by a current or former partner[1]. Women are at far greater chance experiencing domestic violence than men[2]. In 2018 there were 1.32 million domestic abuse-related incidents and crimes reported to police of women, of which 746,219 were considered by the police to be criminal acts under uk law. There were only 78,624 prosecutions and 60,160 convictions for domestic-abuse related crimes. In other words, only around 6% of domestic violence reports end in a prosecution, and of those only 4% end in a conviction. The stats are probably similar for different countries.
If you want to push the idea that a significant number of these cases are bogus, you really have to provide some evidence for that. Domestic violence (against both women and men) is real, and people (usually women) often die as a result of it. Spouting off sexist tropes that women are just going it because they're 'scorned' really isn't acceptable.
Unfortunately, there are many many more examples of real world violence. If you peer into the abyss that is the online world - it seems like there are an endless amount of shooters waiting to happen in the US. It's no surprise that it happens so often. A lot of men in pain who want everyone else to experience the pain they've been feeling before they themselves commit suicide. With access to guns - it makes it so easy to do.
The biggest surprise for most women out here might be this tidbit: most men are incels until they're not. It's that some men never get out of that horrible rut and a small amount of those are the ones you see end up doing the shootings. The rest suffer silently or just kill themselves.
It's sad. Most of my female friends are completely unaware. All of my male friends are painfully aware because almost every man who ever went through that phase to any significant degree will do almost everything but forget it. Someday we'll get to the point where we acknowledge this but part of me thinks we don't ever want to. If we did - then we'd have to really change things and no one likes to change shit.
Men don't see it coming because they don't care. Quite frequently men are in bad relationships that don't affect them much but they generally don't walk away.
Women pull the trigger when they can't take it anymore.
I think he has a better point if he focused on intra-relationship murders. In these cases its usually women who are the victims in most country statistics i have seen. From the swedish one:
> I alla 10 fall av dödligt våld i en parrelation 2022 var offret en kvinna, vilket var 5 fall färre jämfört med 2021
=> In all 10 cases of fatal violence in a couple relationship in 2022, the victim was a woman.
Men are continually trying to paint sexism as symmetric. Doesn't matter that 99% of the corpses that result from domestic violence are women, that 1% means that it's actually a back and forth tennis match. Meanwhile, one of the most common types of mass killings is when men just decide to kill every woman they see.
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