> They can only be as trustworthy as they're allowed to be.
This may be true, but it still means they're untrustworthy. We all are responsible for our own actions. Behaving in an untrustworthy fashion says something important about a person even if (or especially if) they're behaving that way to save their own skin.
> It's easier to just not judge. Don't let others past drag behind them, don't use their past against them.
Unfortunately not everyone feels that way, and you have zero control over that. You do have control over the attack surface you leave for bad actors to leverage.
> your ultimate goal is to establish the credibility of your side so strongly that others' trust in you is not affected by whether what you say is actually true. Establishing credibility is the ultimate Dark Art.
Because future sources need to trust you. Protecting sources needs to be absolute, or some of them will wonder what it takes to constitute “betrayal” in the future.
Not betraying a source that has wronged you is fantastic signalling to future sources.
Should we believe that family and friends are beyond the reach of the cardinal sins? I'm going to proclaim loudly: No! Family and friends are ideally placed to defraud us and sleep with our partner.
This isn't and indictment against trust, because, in practice, we trust family and friends anyway, and are rightly surprised and disappointed when they let us down.
We shouldn't be surprised or disappointed when HR, Legal, Management, etc, turn against us.
> * Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.*
This is very good advice that my family never follow because of short sighted idea that everyone is out to cheat you. You get so much more out of life by being cooperative and vulnerable than you do by protecting yourself from all risk of being cheated.
>The fact that you believe this only shows you to be gullible.
The fact that you choose to believe this only shows you how little you have been around them IRL. Keep finding solace inside your own narratives and consider yourself lucky, most of them are the dumbest bunch of crooks you could ever find.
> which has happened to me, to friends, to my wife equally...
I assume your lying to try and prove a point. Unless you back this up with evidence, one should safely assume you are lying.
I don't like doing this, but as someone once said: there are people out there who lie. Especially these days, with the problems of fake news, it's easy to get suspicious.
> That's the thing. If we don't trust, or accept that trust may not be merited, then there's nothing to break.
Yeah but to get to that point you have to break the trust you had in them or people in general, so my point remains. Or did you from the day of your birth assume everyone is lying to you about everything?
it's hard to trust someone who calls you 'racist' without evidence.
It's also hard to trust people who are willing to destroy your life if you're not on their side.
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