> They can only be as trustworthy as they're allowed to be.
This may be true, but it still means they're untrustworthy. We all are responsible for our own actions. Behaving in an untrustworthy fashion says something important about a person even if (or especially if) they're behaving that way to save their own skin.
> That's the thing. If we don't trust, or accept that trust may not be merited, then there's nothing to break.
Yeah but to get to that point you have to break the trust you had in them or people in general, so my point remains. Or did you from the day of your birth assume everyone is lying to you about everything?
Because future sources need to trust you. Protecting sources needs to be absolute, or some of them will wonder what it takes to constitute “betrayal” in the future.
Not betraying a source that has wronged you is fantastic signalling to future sources.
> Some folks might not trust those authority figures and their advice.
Part of this might be just normal human nature; but a big part of it is that authority figures are often simply not reliable. They set and enforce rules based on fears, or their own convenience, or their own pride or status instead of actually making rules which are for the benefit of the person under authority.
Should we believe that family and friends are beyond the reach of the cardinal sins? I'm going to proclaim loudly: No! Family and friends are ideally placed to defraud us and sleep with our partner.
This isn't and indictment against trust, because, in practice, we trust family and friends anyway, and are rightly surprised and disappointed when they let us down.
We shouldn't be surprised or disappointed when HR, Legal, Management, etc, turn against us.
It's not even that. It's just a statement of fact. The things that you put in positions where they can fuck you are de facto the things you trust. You might know for a fact that they are untrustworthy garbage, but you're still trusting them.
> If someone is willing to lie in such minor issues, then such person is totally untrustworthy
What’s the backing for this? If a stranger asks me what my favorite color is, I don’t feel any particular obligation to give them a truthful answer. But at least in my experience, that hasn’t manifested as a willingness to lie or deceive in cases where it matters. I think it’s possible that your personal social contract is not as universal as you think.
> the reason you act like this is because you don't understand that you are doing something wrong
No, it's actually because you don't think it's wrong in the first place.
I understand why people prefer to lie to protect other's emotions, or why people prefer being high-status rather than being right, but I disagree with that, I think it's wrong.
This may be true, but it still means they're untrustworthy. We all are responsible for our own actions. Behaving in an untrustworthy fashion says something important about a person even if (or especially if) they're behaving that way to save their own skin.
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