Why do you think 90% of people are in relationships, especially at such a young age? I'd guess it's closer to 2/3, although I'm using anecdotal evidence.
Wait a minute, are those 90% and 10% separate groups? Ask the 10% out again yourself!! They might be thinking you're the one who's not interested!
A little positive story. My parents met when my mother was about 40 and father 60. Stayed together the rest of his life. But they both had their psychological problems and I think my father was a little abusive - certainly arrogant toward her.
I think it was 6 during my undergrad, 2 of which ended up in relationships, one of which lasted for 2 years. If i was just looking for a hookup it would have been more, but those % were based off people i thought i would honestly be compatable with. I blew off a lot of people looking for hookups
It's tough, though. If you ask very happily married 60+ old couples, I think most will tell you that there was a patch or two they didn't really enjoy, and that they are happy they rode it out.
The trick is knowing when to make that call. Having a list of a thousand compatible singles a click away probably lowers the "walk away" threshold quite a bit.
40% never having a romantic relationship outside of marriage, yes. The two graphs gave roughly the same number, with one translating to how many “??” some has had, translating roughly to “Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Sweetheart” and the other graph translating roughly to “How many people have you gone on a date with”, dating using the loan word “???”.
In both cases, about 5% of married people considered themselves to be at 0 people in both categories. It’s not about sex, it’s about having another person you spent time with in a romantic intent.
I get quite a few daily follow requests on TikTok by women who are seeking a relationship. As I'm already happily married I don't respond, but its a big ego boost for me, and is reassuring that if my current relationship ever went south, I still have some attraction.
That's great news. It would be a lot more worrying if you were their last choice for a partnership. Really, count your blessings. And as long as they're being headhunted but they haven't accepted you're in good shape.
It's like dating a very pretty woman. You can worry all the time that she's got lots of suitors and you can destroy your relationship by being jealous of all kinds of things that you imagine might happen or are happening. But the only thing that matters is that you're together and she apparently chose you, even if you're a bit insecure about why it is you over all those other options out there.
That would say more about you than it would about them ;)
Be happy, make them proud and I'm sure they'll make you proud as well.
I've done a lot of dating over the years, and have discovered that the most important thing is finding someone who likes me for who I am. At various points I went on so many dates that I worried that the right person wasn't out there, or that maybe I was meeting her and not knowing it.
The truth is that it's hard to find someone who is a good match, especially by the time you get into your 30s and have a fair bit of life experience. If you meet your partner at 30 vs 20, you have lived 50% longer and had a lot more experiences that have shaped your preferences.
But it definitely can be done. I've noticed that a fair number of people who were perpetually single eventually met the right person and settled down in their 30s or even 40s (I just went to the wedding of a friend who is in his mid-40s).
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