This is the same kind of thinking when men says "Women just aren't attracted to science or computers". Ignoring all the social cues that discourage women from those activities.
>Women have almost no intellectual curiosity. It is just how they are wired. If you want to have great conversations about anything meaningful, you must find a man.
You are hanging around the wrong women if that is what you are really interested in (I suspect not). I would be careful generalizing your experience with certain women to the remaining 50% of the human race!
> All the other girls would talk about fashion labels and gossip and she would be bored out of her mind, wondering why nobody else watched Doctor Who. None of them understood the joke on her Darth Vader t-shirt. One of them listened to her podcast and asked her what “Marvel” was. One of them told her to stop making them feel stupid all the time.
Believe it or not, you can be a good coder without knowing who Doctor Who and Darth Vader are, or what Marvel is. Not even having seen Star Wars will make you a good programmer!
(A friend of mine who saw the linked post was astounded at the idea that girls are keeping other girls out of IT by not being enthusiastic about juvenile comic books and juvenile sci-fi. That is just about the single stupidest thing one could possibly think---unless, perhaps, the single stupidest thing one could possibly think is that it's somehow daring or transgressive to be a fan of Dr. Who. Come the fuck on.)
> This could be just to tell how much of a nerd/geek you are. Could work in your favor if you show them how passionate you are about technology or having fun?
But I think this is the sort of thing on which a lot of men give women particularly harsh scrutiny. Like what you said before, a lot of men have a stereotype that women aren't interested in X, so if they meet a woman who is supposedly interested in X, they grill her extra hard on it; where as if it were a man, they would just accept that he's interested.
>hobbies that are almost exclusively shared by other men
So all the best ones.
Programming, GNU/Linux, complex bideo gamez...
>and often show no interest in their potential partners' hobbies
So all the braindead ones for people who for some reason are too cognitively limited or environmentally discouraged to be into the ones above.
Sex, drugs, travel, shopping...
This stark sexual partitioning is either a joint failure of society and feminism in not encouraging women to do better or some redpill biological thing, but, either way, it sucks and the answer is the same: posthumanity. Let's go bb :clap:
Unflappable except supposedly they literally can't read this website out of the inescapable fear that someone will make a pun about man pages, and then someone else will be unimpressed with their outrage at a pun about man pages.
> I don't cultivate such relationships unless I don't feel attracted to the woman in question.
This is certainly a common dynamic, with a lot of cultural reinforcement, but my point was simply that it's not the fault of the woman but rather the man who's trying to will something into existence and, in many cases, pretending to be something he's not.
> there are absolutely people that fit so-called unrealistic body standards
This statement represents a common misunderstanding of what body standards are. Our culture is a toxic environment for women because they feel pressure to look and act in ways that are considered beautiful and feminine. I hope we can agree that women who don't happen to fit the beauty standards of the day (which is, from what I can tell, impossible anyways) should not be valued less in our society. Yet, they are: women who are traditionally beautiful are treated differently in our culture.
> it doesn't seem to matter
Oh but it does! Sexism is a serious issue. I'd be happy to point you to some references on the topic.
One representation of a woman in media really isn't a big deal, but when they are all white, extremely skinny, have large breasts, etc. it becomes pretty cringey.
Here is a summary I found that outlines some of the ways women are objectified in comic books. It talks about how they are overly-sexualized and drawn in impossible positions that female readers often find awkward and demeaning. [0]
“Day after day, I swipe the Hinge profiles of girls endowed with the greatest gifts known in the universe, only to find that their hobbies are sleeping and eating. The last million years of evolution has been wasted on them; they might as well live with orangutans.”
Oh, buddy. You’re definitely going to be a hit in the dating scene when your first instinct is to call women boring and basic.
>but men in general tend to be geared toward non-emotional stimulus and action-oriented thinking. Their supernormal stimulus is hardcore and paraphilic porn for this reason, which then of course invokes unfavorable comparisons, because of how unrealistic they are.
>Women in general respond to emotional stimulus better. Their supernormal stimulus is erotic romance, also known to create unrealistic expectations, however these expectations are about men, not the readers themselves.
Do you have a source for this claim? I've heard this claim many times but I've never seen it proven scientifically.
This is the same kind of thinking when men says "Women just aren't attracted to science or computers". Ignoring all the social cues that discourage women from those activities.
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