Natural selection, I think. It's not a term that I was familiar with, but a little digging found this:[0]
> The other, minor difference is that men are polygamous, not hypergamous. A man’s imperative is not (necessarily) to get the best woman. It’s to get as many women as possible with as little investment and commitment as possible. If he can do it, he would love to get as many women as possible at and a little below his own SMV, and have sex with as many of them as possible for as long as possible, without committing to or investing in any of them. That’s spinning plates. Most men don’t do this, because they can’t, because they’re not attractive enough, but that’s a different post.
OK, so I'm a guy, and I can say for sure that this is what I always wanted. Most of the time, I wasn't attractive enough, because I was too self-conscious and nerdy. But I did manage it for a few years, until STDs took me down :(
Anyway, there's also this about women:
> A woman’s imperative is to get the best one man she can get for sex and for provisioning. That’s why you don’t see many women “dating” (i.e. having sex with) several different men at the same time. Women don’t spin plates; they pick the best plate they can and take care of it as best they can. Instead of trying to collect plates, they just change out the plates, one for another, when a bigger, better one comes along.
That's consistent with what the parent article concludes, I think. It's just that there aren't many good plates left.
Edit: Responding to therpe1, I'm no evolutionary biologist, and I get that I've quoted a guy with quite an agenda. Still, the distinction that he draws fits will with the biology that I learned, and my personal experience. But please, do cite evidence.
Has HN really sunk to this level of pseudo-science?
I do think it's interesting that as capitalism begins to shed people/jobs en masse -- and it's kind of the same thing because once you get rid of the jobs you inevitably have to get rid of the people even if its through very indirect like skyrocketing health insurance premiums -- people need to devise these kind of elaborate justifications based on evolutionary non-science. I guess it's easier to believe that all women are saving themselves for millionaires and alpha-males than it is to admit the basic truth that under capitalism everyone and everything is disposable in the name of accumulation.
> That’s why you don’t see many women “dating” (i.e. having sex with) several different men at the same time. Women don’t spin plates; they pick the best plate they can and take care of it as best they can.
It's laughable. This guy really has limited experience with women.
I don't even know where to start with that garbage article.
First, most everybody has a natural urge to have sex with a lot of hot people. It's just that some people (women, for instance) will face greater opprobrium from their families and communities for doing so. That doesn't stop all women though. Many do in fact have sex with multiple men at a time. I am open to talking about the statistics of how many men vs. how many women do this, but I would not make conclusions involving stupid plate-spinning metaphors as that article does. And actually, the only stats I can find indicate that women tend to engage in polyamory more so than men [1].
And whether or not you're personal preferred lifestyle is to settle down, it's pretty much irrelevant when you're speaking about men generally. I have had a very high number of sexual partners, but I chose to then get married and have a single sexual partner. It's not because I would have been unable to keep sleeping around. I get approached by women more now than ever before and I'm not lying to say that I could find a new attractive sexual partner every day. I don't want to though. So, my experience and attitude directly contradict that passage you quoted.
Yes, there's strong selection for sexual desire :) And yes, men have traditionally had more slack about being promiscuous. However, over several years in an extended polyamory community, I found it far more common for women to push for commitment and monogamy than for men. And that's what I've heard about current app-based hookup culture.
I fear that universal basic income might be the nail in the coffin of marriage and monogamy. Basically, government would replace any need for a male provider.
It's a recipe for disaster. Civilization is built on monogamous relationships: children being raised by a couple (statistically a far better environment than single parenthood), young men and women focusing their energy for the betterment of society.
I wrote this comment before the one above. I'm open to other points of views if you write them down. I can't tell you for certain whether my statement is an absolute fact, but there seems to be some truth in it that is worth thinking about. Are you aware of any thriving, long-lasting society that rejects monogamy?
Iceland has low rates of marriage, but is fairly conventional about monogamy. Iceland also has roughly as many residents as Tulsa, OK - a population just large enough to avoid inbreeding depression.
Actually, that HN thread left a mark on me.
Before that I was vaguely familiar with the concept. "History is written by the winners", the concept of superstitions, marketing, appeal to the majority, etc.
But I was mostly dismissing it, considering that rational thought would in the end triumph. Considering that, in the least, each repetition should bring extra information for the effect to manifest.
That thread prompted me to give some though to the subject and the answer I arrived at so far does not make me happy at all.
Realizing that repetition by itself is enough, clarifies some things I did not understand and simply classified as reality not making sense.
I feel ever more justified in my energy consuming efforts to fact-check information I receive and in my strides to present information as opinion/personal thought/conclusion based on sources/mere reproduction of sources instead of truth.
I am more aware of this than before but at the same time it causes a lot more stress to me now than it did before.
I am less willing than I was to engage in live discussions where I receive information, because that places a burden of fact checking on me and I can not always do that at the speed of real life. And depending on the interlocutor I can not rephrase the discussion in terms of hypothetical statements.
The burden of proof really is a burden- one sometimes wishes one could take the whole heap of aggregated knowledge from one discussion board to the next.
With automated named references to counter arguments.
The problem is, people would tend to not read this Wiki:Discussion page, as its "external" to the community, so in addition a system for metering trustworthiness (trusted by users i trust) would be needed.
Really, the issue is that people in general no longer have a "script" to play to - study until 16/18, get a job, work your way up, get engaged, get married, buy/inherit a house, have three kids, care for them until 18, work a few more years and then settle down for a comfy retirement partially paid for by one's now-adult kids. Oh, and present oneself as a good Christian all the while.
Here's the thing though - not having a script is a good thing. It allows people to discover what matters to them and what humanity and society is to them. If it's something other than the current state of things - then it should've been changed a long time ago, rather than putting pressure on people to conform to an ideal that nobody wants when they're allowed to think for themselves. It's also what LGBT people have been dealing with for a long time, so you might want to ask how they deal with it, rather than asserting it's the end of society.
Single parenthood isn't the only alternative to being raised by a couple. In fact, those being the only two options is a fairly recent thing. It used to be that children were broadly brought up by communities - to the point that food would be served by whoever happened to have the kids nearby when it was served. Still happens in some places, even in the middle of huge cities - I was brought up like that. Now, for some reason (fear?), parents attempt to keep a tight leash at all times, and the only interaction with one's community a kid might get is through approved and strictly regulated extracurricular activities.
Being "allowed" and actually being capable are two very different things. This is essentially what the Existentialist philosophers have been lamenting. The great mass of people, if they're allowed to go off the rails, will simply crash.
If the argument is that when people are given free will, very bad things will happen - I have no idea what to say, to be honest. It's certainly not compatible with the concept of a liberal democracy, at the least.
No, my argument is that society puts constraints on people. People are free to ignore these constraints, but most people won't. And the fact that most people won't isn't necessarily a bad thing, when you consider the alternatives.
And these constraints were developed over millenia (some are probably the result of natural selection, others by experience) and for the most part are documented in religious/moral codes of "good" and "sinful" behavior. Our ancestors were not dumb; they could identify what behaviors were beneficial and detrimental to society.
I mean. Societies even 20, 50, 100, 500 years ago did many awful things to many good people on the basis of "keeping society together". And yet we're still doing reasonably well, sometimes centuries after some of these religious rules were dropped. (Not that they were ever very well followed, so long as one's wife/neighbour/pastor didn't find out.)
Additionally, there's quite a variety of different cultures around the world that all do different things. India had quite a number of polygamous marriages until relatively recently, for example - all of its major religions, and the culture surrounding them, are relatively neutral on the subject. Third genders were a relatively common and accepted thing across the world until British Colonialism introduced Christian morals to a lot of places, often reducing them to prostitutes and symbols of evil/bad luck. And so on and so forth.
Honestly - existential worry about one's place in a changing world isn't a new thing. You can find stories on the subject going back centuries. People will figure it out.
The one specific cultural constraint I'm talking about is the where, when, how, and who may have children. It would seem like the overwhelming majority of cultures pay special attention to this.
The article claims the effect of varying employment levels on society are different depending on gender- lower male employment means lower marriage rates. Lower women employment means higher marriage rates. Lower marriage rates imply higher numbers of children born out of wedlock. Children born out of wedlock are more likely to have disadvantaged backgrounds. But increasing number of single mothers reduce the stigma of being a single mother, and allowing single mothers to "soldier on".
Civilization is built on monogamy. People might not like the sound of it, but that's the reality of the situation. This is why all successful cultures and religions promote marriage, while tagging everything else as 'degeneracy'. You can't build a society if 90% of men are frustrated, disenfranchised and blow things up, and children are raised by single parents. You need a social contract that gives men a purpose and a legacy (sex), so that they can focus their efforts toward the development of the tribe.
EDIT: To clarify, I do NOT condone violence toward non-traditional arrangements. Sorry if I came off that way.
The ones that did vote likely voted for Trump in order to bring manufacturing jobs back. However misguided you may of believed this to be, the Democratic candidate said things like "We are going to put coal miners out of business"[0], if you were a coal miner that would scare you.
The economic situation isn't bad enough to put pressure on them to do so. If a repeat of the dot-com bust or 2008 occurred and their lifestyle became endangered, you honestly think that this demographic wouldn't turn out to vote for some even worse demagogue who makes pie-in-the-sky promises to fix all their problems?
Except dystopia isn't "everyone lives in a bad, mean world". It's societal dislocation. For some, the dystopia is real, right now. For others, it never will be.
As someone who's always been employed, this confuses me. How do the permanently unemployed afford video games and drugs, in addition to rent and food? Sponge off their parents? Their partner? The state? I'd love to see a real study.
If you are permanently unemployed, you don't pay taxes, you get subsidies for food, for rent, for health care, for heating, and for a plethora of other services, if you know how to game the system properly. You may be on "disability", and if you're smart about it, you probably work a little bit off the books, cash-only.
There's a whole system of perverse incentives and interacting welfare programs that produce income cliffs where it is suboptimal to work more and have greater income, because that small increase in wages results in a much larger loss of services.
These are often not kids of the lower-classes, who are more likely to end up on the streets caught up in crime than in their bedroom playing video games. It's the middle or even upper middle class children often doing this, not just for economic reasons.
Take away their video games and drugs, and see what you end up with. Their video game addiction is obviously a sign of deep, fundamental and overwhelming distress. I think you're going for the "they're victims too, not violent inhumane monsters" which is true, but doesn't take away from GP's point that they're potentially volatile and therefore a threat to stability.
Antibiotics are some 90 years old. Before then, STDs were a death sentence.
K-selection is civilization. r-selection is feralization. One of the goals of religion was to tame r-selected behaviors and to encourage K-selected behaviors.
Interesting that you mention "the tribe" as basic unit of society. We have abandoned the concept of tribalism gradually in favour of (1.) feudalism, (2.) absolute monarchy and finally (3.) the nation state. Today, we don't have to deal with "the development of the tribe", because the greater family has become utterly unimportant [wich is a good thing IMO, because we can focus on more important issues].
Moreover most tribal societies in Western/Central Europe up until the 7th century -- in Scandinavia until the 10th century -- were polygamous. Some of these societies were highly successful. The Vikings for example weren't just barbarous brutes and pirates, but also tradesmen and farmers with highly sophisticated technologies like metallurgy, coinage and shipbuilding.
So no, I don't think that "Civilization is built on monogamy". If anything, monogamy as a family model is built on the roman church, and it's the heritage of the roman church our society is based upon.
Eh, the nation-state is a tribe? Feudalism was a tribe? monarchy is a tribe with a soap opera? Todays tribes are companys, soccer clubs and nation states?
What? no of course not. I just tried to illustrate that the social contract evolved over a very long time period, and that the greater family -- ie the tribe -- plays no part in the social contract of todays society.
Yes, the human species gets updated and advanced every Friday. A completely new species, new ethics, more cultured and well behaved. Not just a ape bribed with a banana to be quiet.
Never before has it happened, that those wishing for this to be true, just plugged there ears and eyes, hoping for dreams to become true by wishing and praying, slammed into the ugly reality of old meatware (Weimar).
I agree with the goals in general, but is it really so tough, to accept what is, and work within the limits of the brittle, old mangine you got, instead of dreaming up a "new human" and singing loud enough to not hear the flying gears?
PS: The Vikings are a nice example of non-islamic jihadism, aka dumping of excessive youth in violent campaigns in the neighbours tribe backyard?
With "finally", i just meant, that it is what we arrived with in the here and now. It is by no means final, it's just our current form of social contract. It is also far from perfect, but I consider it better than most forms of government we came up with.
>> The article claims the effect of varying employment levels on society are different depending on gender- lower male employment means lower marriage rates. Lower women employment means higher marriage rates.
That's not a claim, it's a fact. You need to study evolutionary psychology. Women seek a man to provide and protect. Period. Other qualities are in play too, but I'm talking about an evolved need. You take away the ability of a man to provide and protect and he becomes shit to a woman. You take away the womans ability to provide for herself and she becomes more dependent on marriage to get by. Why does this gender difference exist? Because being pregnant and caring for children both make women more vulnerable and detract from their self preservation ability. Hence the evolved family structure that works.
Some people from former Yugoslavia mentioned that during the war all women clustered around the few men that had means for survival and who led gangs or were involved in all kinds of shady business bringing in resources. I guess the effect described in the article is similar.
It would be interesting to see studies on this. Intuitively this makes sense - in times of societal breakdown, the ability to violently compete for resources will return as a key signal of fitness
I hate to sound this much politically incorrect but women in these times of social unrest and upheaval turn into resources themselves and this clustering, as you described it, would be more of involuntary and less of at will.
This doesn't mean that women in these situations wouldn't tend to gravitate toward the most power male with the largest resources in the pack but in most case it's the other way around.
Which is really more politically incorrect to say, that women are basically looking for a man to provide for them, or that, more or less, pimps are survivors?
It's similar to the entirety of human history, minus the last little bit. The notion of most men finding female partners is a relatively recent development. Throughout most of our history, most men haven't procreated. There was a story posted here a while back that cited DNA analysis to show that humans have roughly twice as many female ancestors as male ancestors. Apparently, the historical averages are around 80% of females that reproduced and only around 40% of males that did. It sounds like we experienced a brief period of middle-class prosperity that made that phenomenon far less pronounced and we're now seeing a regression back to the norm.
I'm not making a value judgment or saying we should want this disparity, just pointing out that throughout our history, it's mostly been this way.
Modern life is just bizarre, and especially so for men. We used to perform tasks that were immensely valued by women. Our rewards were directly dependent on our abilities. We worked hard and we achieved goals. Modern life is none of those things for most men. There is very little difference between the pay in many jobs, whether they are typically performed by men or women. These jobs often don't reward you for your abilities but rather reward you for who you know or how good your are at politics. Most jobs are also boring. With the money obtained, whether you are male or female, you can go and buy your meat at the supermarket and pay someone to build your house and so on.
Men seem to have been replaced by a master-slave relationship with masses of people working for a small group of large companies that provide for both men and women. It is like large businesses are the new man. I feel like they are a middle-man that simply should be replaced. I tend to agree with the unabomber in that modern life simply isn't compatible with humans.
When you say sentences like the last one, you might want to consider getting psychological help. There are all kinds of critics of modern life one could reference that aren't mass murderers.
The only reason anyone knows what he thought is that he murdered people until he forced the media to publish his depraved opinions. He wasn't an original thinker. There are plenty of people who wrote critiques of modern life that didn't have to murder people to get attention for them.
That's an ad hominem. Just because he is a murderer, it does not invalidate everything that he ever said.
We should do well to recognize criminals as fellow human beings, instead of mindlessly reject everything about them, just so that we can follow the predictable and tiresome ritual of shunning the deviant so we ourselves can be perceived as good.
Utopia never existed. Until about 250 years ago, your outcomes depended overwhelmingly on what family you came from, no matter your skills. Children of peasants would become peasants; children of artisans would become artisans; and so on and so forth. Rebelling to that state of thing would likely get you hanged or ostracized.
The industrial revolution and global colonization changed that, injecting opportunities for an ever-growing section of men; and genocidal mass-war eventually did the same for women. This land of mirth and honey where every man has an opportunity to bootstrap himself is a somewhat fantastical invention. Social mobility might have been higher than average in the US between 1850 and 1950, but anywhere else "where you come from" was always the most important factor in anyone's fortunes.
Your blanket statement is bullshit. Maybe you should read a book from the era, men were terrified of the horrors these wars produced. Perhaps they saw a chance to escape their absolute poverty, that doesn't mean they liked what they did.
Yes many men were opposed and many of them even severely punished for that opposition.
The point however still stand - both wars and political parties who brought them in had a lot of support. Not just from women. Those revolutions and wars did not just randomly happened out of nothing. People, not just women, wanted them.
Also, many German veterans from wwi wanted the war, wanted to reverse humiliation they felt after loosing. Some were opposed, but opposition was not universal among them.
It wasn't just escape from powerty, it was something meant to give their lives meaning, building imperium and all that crap.
There was a lot of shaming of men who were not soldiers. One particularly interesting example of it is The White Feather[1] campaign against men in England during WWI. It was orchestrated by women, including prominent feminists no less.
It was a sarcastic response to toyg's belief about social mobility in 1850s referring to the auction poster in the link provided, but whatever. Enjoy your echo chamber.
Cheer up. Contrary to what many believe, men's chances in life have never been better than now.
Life used to be rough and unfair for most us men. Maybe the oldest son had a chance to inherit the farm or shop of his father so he could provide for a wife and family. Many men, however, had no such luck and went through life without marrying, many without ever dating or being with a woman.
Western women don't need men to provide an income to the same extent as before, and that opens up a lot of other possibilities for us men.
Guys can actually get married although they only earn enough to support half a family or 40% of a family. I even know several guys that makes less than 10% of the family income (and that's through welfare). What chance would a stay home dad have had in 1920? What chance would an unemployed guy have had?
And equally important, we can date women without providing them anything else than a bit of romance. It has still only been a couple of generations in which a majority of us dated for years without having to marry.
Some women still look at earning ability but many women also look at other traits nowadays. Looks, intellect, humour, family skills, interests etc. Work on that and be grateful you weren't born at any point in human history before the 1950s.
While there exist women that don't look at earning ability of men, and there exist men who don't look at the age and appearance of women, both of those seems to be depressingly small minority when ever I see studies on it. I recall a poll from example china where 80% of women answered that they could never date a man who earned less than a set amount (which is above average pay), and a majority who considered that a man should not even be allowed outside if they didn't earn that much. They should be inside studying or working.
Why is post-1950 men better off in this regard than pre-1950?
When it come to vague recollections, source is not that easy to bring. I don't write down what I see, so sometimes you got to take it for what it is.
Through after some searching, I did find today what I looked at several years ago and they seems very similar to what I recalled. "The survey shows that about 80% of the single women interviewed think that it's reasonable for men to only consider a relationship if they receive a monthly income of above 4,000 yuan (US$635)", which was above the average income in 2011 when the study was done. - (http://www.womenofchina.cn/html/womenofchina/report/136873-1...)
For the even more depressing parts, okcupid blog from 2009 shared some data. For how men view of women: (https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0...). To quote: "This graph also dramatically illustrates just how much more important a woman’s looks are than a guy’s."
This is based on dating websites where people need to make a quick decision based on a relatively limited set of information. I don't know how much this skews the data but it wouldn't surprise me that on a dating website, people make more decisions based on superficial data (earnings, look) than in real life.
That said, in real life, there's not necessarily a lot of social mixity so people will tend to meet people who earn about the same as they do.
Slightly out of topic, funnily enough when I used such a website, I lowballed my earnings because I didn't want to meet women for whom that was an important factor.
The context in China is widely different from developed countries like the US or European countries. China is a country that underwent a massive change in their economic system and a massive growth in the past 20 years, that completely changes people's expectation. I mean just when I lived in Shanghai from 2009 to 2013, the cost of a cleaning lady went from 10 RMB/per hour to 25 RMB/hour.
Anecdotally, I've heard quite a few Chinese woman tell me that they wanted to marry someone who was rich only to end up marrying a few years later someone who earned about as much as they did.
I don't have statistics for countries that have been developed for some time like US and Europe but, in my experience, flexie is absolutely correct. It's not that difficult to find women who don't really care about the earning ability of their mate.
Do you want to marry someone who filters based on earning ability? Those are the types I try and avoid!
Post-1950 man has so many more freedoms and opportunities and ways to live life, sure it is probably harder if you want to live your imagined 1950s lifestyle but now you don't have to live that 1950s lifestyle.
I am sure a huge number of men were chain ganged into living that way during the 1950s which made life a lot worse than now.
But I guess with choice and freedom brings anxiety and fear of choosing incorrectly.
I think there's a lot of men who'll do anything to have a regular sex partner and a sense of purpose. Unfortunately, the sense of purpose society prescribes men is that of sole provider for a woman and 2-3 kids. Men are as much a victim of the societal power structures that pressure us all as women in this sense - an assertion that masculinity is intrinsically linked to this rather oppressive structure causes issues for men who don't fit into the structure.
I married a woman who definitely filtered based on earning ability. Not in terms of "must be a millionaire" but in terms of "must have some evidence that he will be able to hold down a steady job." I'm pretty sure that if at some point in our relationship before we got married I had decided to permanently quit working and play video games all day, she would have broken up with me. I think the majority of rational women who are not independently wealthy do this.
In fairness, she also imposed these rules on herself, so that she could take care of herself and any children in the event something happened to me. (She works part-time in a highly paid field. Partly because it interests her to work, and partly as an economic hedge -- we don't really need her income now, but if something happened to me, she could switch to full time and support the family.)
It's economically rational to want a spouse who can earn money. It's not necessarily gold digging.
>Life used to be rough and unfair for most us men. Maybe the oldest son had a chance to inherit the farm or shop of his father so he could provide for a wife and family. Many men, however, had no such luck and went through life without marrying, many without ever dating or being with a woman.
Citation needed. This has absolutely not been the case in most of recorded history and in most of the known world.
Yes, also for men without college degrees. Even most welfare clients are better off than an average man in 1776, 1861, 1914, 1940 etc. and they in turn had way better lives than men in the stone, bronze, or iron ages and men in the Medieval period.
I wouldn't even want to change for a successful young, white American male in the 1960s or whenever America was at its industrial peak.
Look, we are so lucky at this point in time in the Western world. Far from everything is great, but we live long lives in comfort, mostly painless, mostly without death or disease or hunger, mostly without war, we date around for fun during a decade or two, travel as we like, wherever we like, get entertainment on demand, chose our own profession, before we marry out of love when we are in our 30s or even 40s. Kings would envy our comfortable lives and I bet even Cary Grant would envy the dating life of a regular young man armed with Tinder.
I disagree. My wife's grandfather, who I'd consider typical, bought a house and provided for a family of four in Palo Alto while working at a local Safeway. A job that required no college degree but only the willingness to show up and take some pride in his work. It was a modest yet peaceful and satisfying existence.
As far as comfort, I'd don't accept the premise our lives are more comfortable now than in 1955. My guess is most young men would gladly trade the latest dating app and the interwebs for the conditions of the typical 1955 US male.
>As far as comfort, I'd don't accept the premise our lives are more comfortable now than in 1955. My guess is most young men would gladly trade the latest dating app and the interwebs for the conditions of the typical 1955 US male.
Does that include being drafted into the Korean War? The Vietnam War? The Suez Canal Crisis?
The issues under discussion are as challenging for black men as they are for men of other races. Possibly more so, since they have to deal with all the racist bullshit in addition.
I wouldn't have thought gay men were under consideration here, since we're talking about marriage to women.
I was talking about the issue of the rose-colored view of America in the middle of the twentieth century. My point was that even if America in 1960 really was better than America in 2017 for uneducated white working-class men, that's a pretty small segment of the American population. Our country, while from from perfect, is significantly less racist, sexist, and homophobic than it was then.
I respect your sentiment, but your comment is bullshit. There are plenty of interesting jobs with different pay that depends on your ability - if anyone, a HN user should be well-aware of that. And while all negative things you mention exist to some extent, they're at their lowest in human history, not the either way around.
I feel that you rely more on interpretations of personal experience instead of objective look at the world.
There is a profound malaise in modern society for men. You should read the books of French writer Michel Houellebecq as he's precisely describing it.
Modern men lack a purpose in their life. No transcendency anymore, no family models, no sense of common good, people become atomized individuals, and we're not supposed to live like that.
The problem runs very deep even though people start to realize it.
The solution is actually quite simple. Being able to choose your child's sex. If women have happier and easier lives, parents will prefer having daughters which will in turn increase the female population and decrease their value, bringing the value of sexes to an equilibrium.
Wow! I never thought of it that way, but it makes sense. Though if unhappy men are mostly invisible to society, that might lead to parents choosing boys under a wrong impression.
Eric Zemmour, a French political writer and polemist (he has controversial views on immigration and such, but is right on other topics), speaks about this in great detail in his book "The First Sex" (a reference to Simone de Beauvoir's "The Second Sex") He explains how capitalism has taken the "useful idiots" of feminism and used them to first turn women into workers (hence doubling the amount of consumers as it created a population with a newfound salary) and then feminised men to turn them into passive materialists. Men are no longer the authority, they are less and less the breadwinner, they are encouraged to be more feminine, to be more passive than aggressive, to be sensitive and open with their feelings, all emasculating them even further. Then he cites studies of the sharp rise of men who have trouble getting an erection, of the sharp rise in divorces and people no longer wanting to have a family of their own. He connects, in a somewhat Marxian manner (without the communist solution that Marx proposes) that unbridled capitalism destroys the nuclear family under the false kings of individualism and liberty. If you're interested in this stuff, Freud also talks about this: he claims Civilisation should channel men's aggressive tendencies, not suppress them (as we are doing now). The result in doing the latter will mean men will find other ways to rebel, and it will be against civilization instead of being used to enhance it.
Of course, he is not advocating for communism. The big "enemy" he is denouncing is rather _unbridled_ capitalism, and with that, the erasure of borders, the liberal, globalist economy (and political movements that follow), the sovereignty of countries being traded away to transnational entities, etc. As general as I could put it, he exposes feminism for making women the "reserve army" of capitalism against the worker strikes in the 1970s, which resulted in the diminution of salaries and thus prevented families from being able to support themselves on only the man's salary. He highlights that power has been moving from political leaders to business leaders (see: election of Donald Trump) who have been bending countries to their will, forcing those countries to no longer make decisions to best serve their countries but instead to best attract businesses (which bring jobs, development, education, etc etc). He is advocating for a return to the nation state which he believes is being dismantled, conservative and self-sustaining economies within countries with protectionist/nativist regulations. Whilst his solutions can be questioned, his diagnostic is still rather accurate, in my opinion.
That book has a lot of his opinions on the disappearance of the men's virility, but the parts in which he explains the causes and consequences of that are fascinating.
>He is advocating for a return to the nation state which he believes is being dismantled, conservative and self-sustaining economies within countries with protectionist/nativist regulations.
Ok, we recognize you Mr. Bannon, now go back to Breitbart where you came from.
I specifically highlight the fact that I don't think his conclusion is the best one. However, none can deny that there is truth in his diagnostic. To me, he's a guy who writes well and does his research on current phenomenons, hence why he is accurate on what is _currently_ happening. He has little education on economics though, and is just proposing ideas which he has gained through reading nostalgic essays on the glories of the past.
I take exception to the diagnosis! There was never a system of "national" capitalism under which nation-states could make totally independent economic decisions, except during the two world wars. Even in those times, those nation-states made those decisions not for the good of working-class people but for the survival and power of the nation-state itself.
The social-democratic "reasonably golden" age was based upon the Bretton-Woods trade system, under which currencies were pegged to each-other and surpluses were recycled to prevent international debt crises. That was by no means an autarkhic capitalist system; it was internationalist social democracy.
"They found that manufacturing declines significantly affected the supply of what they termed “marriageable” men—men who are not drinking or using drugs excessively and who have a job. (...) the numbers of marriageable men relative to women declined, because men had migrated elsewhere, joined the military, or fallen out of the labor force."
How many in which category? The article treats men who moved away as the same problem as being junkie. Social problems like alcoholism and drugs are talked about as if they would be same as being unemployed. It is odd conflation, it is not the same, not even nearly.
The root problem seems to be that we have made money (or rather, the ability to make some) an ends instead of a means.
I don't know how all of the 8 billion people on this planet can be expected to meaningfully contribute to something (that can't be done better and more cheaply for everyone by automation) and "earn" their money, without seriously crippling technological advancement (e.g. the advent of self-driving vehicles, or robot lawyers/doctors.)
But even many of these jobs could be (and eventually will be) automated. I find the very concept of having to "find work for people" to be flawed. Why should people be expected to work bullshit (often soul destroyingly meaningless) unnecessary busy-work jobs?
I dont expect people to do anything they don't want to do. In contrast, it is the people complaining about work (e.g. BI proponents) who expect me to work in support of those who refuse to do so.
Also, cook, maid, trainer and paan wale - examples given in my blog post - are not bullshit jobs in any sense. They all directly contribute to the happiness of other human beings with no levels of indirection (unlike "good" jobs such as mine).
That's the fallacy though. You aren't expected to do anything to work in support of BI. The whole point is, with increasing automation that all of us don't have to work much anymore to make basic necessities.
Its an old way of thinking, that if anybody else has anything then I don't have it. The new world we're building is called 'post-scarcity' for a reason.
I don't know where that idea is coming from. There are a hundred million Americans under-employed and soon to be replaced with automation. This is an urgent issue.
Already clothes and basic food is so cheap as to be almost free here (the store cost is a fad/fashion tax; clothing is made in factories at pennies a garment).
Maybe many people would not develop the wish to buy fashionable clothes, a bigger car or a faster smartphone if there weren't adverts and people all around us suggesting that that's the right thing to do.
I hope that humans aren't intrinsically consumerist, but I honestly don't know. Does anybody know if research has been don one this topic?
You have it backwards. Advertising works because advertisers know what people want. And people WANT social status.
"We even find that relative income is
more important than absolute income in explaining individual well-being. More
precisely, we find that the income relative to individuals’ own cohort working in
the same occupation group and living in the same region matters for happiness" [1]
"To the conspicuous consumer, such a public display of discretionary economic power is a means of either attaining or maintaining a given social status." [2]
These conspicuous consumers are only fooling themselves. If my neighbor spends 4x on his car compared to me, it certainly doesn't make me feel inferior in any way. If anything it makes me feel sorry for him -- must be overcompensating for some other shortcoming.
Yes I've read Veblen so I understand the theory and psychology behind these tactics that advertising exploits (especially luxury advertising), but there are plenty of people, men and women, for whom such shallow status markers have no effect.
These conspicuous consumers... are a very important part of the economy :) Think about how many engineering and design jobs there are just creating fancier/faster/prettier/etc versions of basic goods. And if the consumer if happy, whats wrong? A lot of that money would just be sitting in a bank somewhere otherwise. Yes, I know some people would donate it to charity.
"but there are plenty of people, men and women, for whom "
Sorry, I didn't mean to generalize all people. I should have said "a large portion of people".
Those people refuse to work as maids, caring for the elderly, picking crops (remember how we need immigrants to do jobs that Americans just won't do?) and similar.
They are not underemployed, they prefer not to work. Go read the article I linked.
> They are not underemployed, they prefer not to work. Go read the article I linked.
"Prefer not to work" is not a reasonable summary of the article. "Receive no benefit from working" is the real problem.
Not only do low income people in the US lose almost all of their earnings to government benefits phase outs, taking a job incurs expenses. You need transportation to the job, potentially to move to an area with an overall higher cost of living, pay someone to do things you can no longer do yourself because you're busy working, etc.
The result is that for low income people in the US, taking a job can easily cause you to lose money.
Which is the thing a UBI fixes, because there is no phase out other than normal taxes, so you keep >=70% of your earnings and taking a job will actually put more money in your pocket.
The problem is it doesn't actually cost less. The taxes you pay for your own UBI cost you nothing.
Meanwhile a basic job has the potential to be very expensive, because unlike a UBI you can't supplement it by working since you're spending your time doing the basic job, so it has to pay a living wage, which is more than the amount you would have to pay as a UBI. And then you will have people who choose the basic job when they would otherwise have chosen an economically productive real job since it's one or the other, which you then have to pay for while at the same time losing the tax revenue you would have had from them doing the real job.
And what happens if too many people choose the basic job so that there are too many unfilled real jobs? With a UBI you can reduce the amount to push more people into the labor force. With a basic job which workers can't supplement with a real job, reducing the amount causes them to starve.
Wait, a UBI won't pay enough to live off of? UBI beneficiaries will all die? That could be pretty cheap.
Also, you assume the economic value of a basic job is zero. Is providing child care for working women really worth $0? How about building infrastructure? In fact, this could be a net gain for the treasury if we replace overpaid government union workers with basic jobbers.
If you want to argue that the BJ is somehow more expensive than a BI, could you provide a back of the envelope calculation showing how that would work?
> Wait, a UBI won't pay enough to live off of? UBI beneficiaries will all die?
They will all find work, which they will be able to without a minimum wage.
Suppose it costs $18,000/year to live here and we have a $12,000/year UBI. Finding a job that pays $18,000/year is not possible for everyone but finding a job that pays $6,000/year is, so they don't die.
> Also, you assume the economic value of a basic job is zero. Is providing child care for working women really worth $0? How about building infrastructure?
It isn't that the value is zero, it's that the value is less than what you're paying them. Because otherwise it would just be a regular job.
And it is not likely that the government is going to find highly productive work for everyone rather than ending up with a lot of people digging holes and filling them back in. The whole "central planning doesn't work" thing.
> In fact, this could be a net gain for the treasury if we replace overpaid government union workers with basic jobbers.
If we could actually do that, i.e. find workers to do the same work for less money, then we could/should do it regardless.
> If you want to argue that the BJ is somehow more expensive than a BI, could you provide a back of the envelope calculation showing how that would work?
A UBI is purely redistributive. You aren't actually buying something, you're only moving money around. It only makes sense to talk about "cost" in the sense of net transfers with government for a given person. For the average person it costs nothing -- they pay $X in taxes and receive $X in UBI, net is zero. People at below average income are net receivers, so if you want to talk about what it "costs" it has to be what it costs to people with above average income.
Moreover, a UBI replaces both welfare/basic job and the progressive tax structure, because the effective tax rate as (taxes - UBI)/income is inherently progressive even with a uniform marginal tax rate. With a basic job you still need a progressive tax structure, which from the perspective of our above average income taxpayer means they then have to pay a higher marginal tax rate than lower income people.
And under both the current welfare system and a UBI, the effective rate paid by lower income people is negative. So unless you're willing to put in place a system that is less progressive than the existing one, a basic job would also have to be coupled with transfer payments to lower income working people. To be equally progressive the transfer payments would have to be the same as the UBI net of taxes.
So they end up costing "the same" until you get to the question of what happens to people who can't find a job that pays a living wage.
Then under a UBI, you let people find whatever job they can even if it doesn't pay a living wage, and let the UBI supplement it so they don't starve.
With a basic job, the government invents work for people.
In some kind of hypothetical sense these could cost the same amount as well. You have a job whose actual economic value is $6000, under a UBI you take the job for $6000 and get a $12,000 UBI, under a basic job the government pays you $18,000 to do the job and then has $6000 worth of productive work done which it can sell on the market or whatever.
But the underlying assumption is that the government is as good at finding productive work for you to do as you are. The bureaucracy itself will waste money, it won't optimize for job satisfaction or consider economically productive activity like providing child care for your own children, and it will have the incentive to invent less productive unskilled jobs for everyone rather than matching each person's abilities to the job. Fundamentally it assumes that the government is as efficient at the market at allocating work, which is hopelessly wrong.
On top of that, it makes the relative value of the basic job too high, so that people have no reason to choose a real job that pays $17K/year and produces >=$17K/year in real value over a basic job that pays $18K/year but only produces $4K/year in real value.
So how does a basic job cost more? Because with a UBI there is someone receiving $12K/year from the government while getting paid another $12K/year to do a job that creates $14K/year in economic value, and then pays $4K/year in taxes, so the government is net -$8K/year to this person. Whereas with a basic job the government is paying the same person $18K/year to produce $4K/year in economic value (which they prefer over the $12K/year real job), so the government is net -$14K/year to the same person, the person has $2K/year less in their pocket and there is $10K/year less economic value produced.
It doesn't. There are billions living on $365/year, after adjusting for the cost of living.
It isn't that the value is zero, it's that the value is less than what you're paying them. Because otherwise it would just be a regular job. And it is not likely that the government is going to find highly productive work for everyone rather than ending up with a lot of people digging holes and filling them back in. The whole "central planning doesn't work" thing.
It's good to know that there is no possible use the government can come up with for labor, and that every program that liberals are currently proposing (child care for working women, pre-K, infrastructure spending) is wasteful. I didn't know that.
I'm still waiting for your back of the envelope calculation. Be sure to include the labor disincentive effects of the BI, which was 9% in the Mincome experiment.
> It doesn't. There are billions living on $365/year, after adjusting for the cost of living.
That wouldn't feed an adult for half that long in the US, to say nothing of lawful living quarters or healthcare or transportation.
And even if true, how does it help you? It would allow both the amount of the UBI and the wage of the basic job to be proportionally less, but the necessary amount of the UBI would still be smaller -- at that cost it could be negligible, given that the number of people who can't find a job in the US that would pay $0.18/hour would be nearly if not literally zero.
> It's good to know that there is no possible use the government can come up with for labor, and that every program that liberals are currently proposing (child care for working women, pre-K, infrastructure spending) is wasteful. I didn't know that.
You can't use "building infrastructure" as a basic job because it's already a real job. The benefit of doing the work exceeds the cost of doing the work so it would/should be done regardless of a basic job program and can't be used to create jobs on top of that, unless the additional jobs couldn't otherwise be justified because they provide less public benefit than they cost.
And how is "child care for working women" or "pre-K" better for those people than the equivalent amount of cash which they can use to buy those things or not as they choose? If anything it will make those things worse because a subsidized government option would bankrupt private alternatives that would otherwise provide better service or lower true cost.
> I'm still waiting for your back of the envelope calculation. Be sure to include the labor disincentive effects of the BI, which was 9% in the Mincome experiment.
Was the last paragraph of the previous post not satisfactory?
"Labor disincentive effects" is just a pejorative way of saying that some people may choose to consume their own labor/time rather than selling it to a third party, which is not actually a problem. Your link points out that the "decline" was primarily young mothers and college students. People choosing to spend more time with their children and their studies. How is that bad?
By comparison a basic job directly displaces private labor with less efficient government labor. That's why it costs more -- people will choose a basic job that pays $8 but only produces $2 in value over a private job that pays $6 and produces $7 in value, and now you have higher expenses, less productive value and lower tax revenue.
Choosing to care for your own children over working for someone else doesn't do that because people only make that choice when they get more value from it than the wages they would receive from the other work. They're literally paying themselves (in opportunity cost) to do child care. The ability to do that isn't a cost, it's an efficiency gain.
The only sense in which it's a cost at all is that self-labor is typically untaxed, which is a policy decision that we could make the other way in theory, but we're probably better off not because it implicitly subsidizes self-labor which is generally meritorious (e.g. no transportation costs, no principal-agent problems, no paperwork).
who expect me to work in support of those who refuse to do so.
Not all people who make money work for it. What about those people who earn tons of money collecting economic rents on all the capital and other property they own? By paying economic rents to these people, the rest of us are supporting their lavish lifestyles while many other people struggle to keep a roof over their heads.
I favor eliminating the regulations that allow rent seekers to profit - NIMBY rules in coastal cities, taxi and other labor protectionism, etc. I even favor taxes on signalling activities, such as getting a degree.
I am all in favor of eliminating rents, as distinguished from investment income (which is not a rent).
I am all in favor of eliminating rents, as distinguished from investment income (which is not a rent).
Eh, tons of the money made on Wall Street is not really investment income but stuff like management fees, so-called 20 and 2 fees, interest on loans, arbitrage from high-frequency trading, etc.
Management fees are labor income. Interest is investment income. I have no desire to eliminate any of this, except for the portions that are economic rents.
As an example of the portion that is a real rent, consider the management fees you pay on 401k investments over and above the management fees paid on equivalent public symbols. (E.g., my last 401k's S&P index fund cost 30 or 40 bps more than SPY.) I favor eliminating this rent by banning 401k's.
The rents mostly go to the banks, who create the loans out of nothing and win either way. Your rent might go to a landlord but to compete in the bidding on the building he must lend as much as anyone else from a bank.
That ability to mortgage land should be shared among society if anything is to get better. The question is how the 'state' handles any foreclosure in a politically acceptable way when home owners would use their voting power to cajole their way out of giving anything up when they get greedy and over extend. Right now the state offloads this to the banks as the bad guy debt collectors, giving them the benefits of foreclosed assets.
"rent seeking" and capitalism only differ in that a rent seeker strives to rig the system to maintain for themselves a profit whereas in capitalism it is assume that all profits will drop to zero with competition, and one must chart new territory to regain profitability. Hence if you can maintain your profit (like Apple) then you are probably a rent seeker and not a capitalist.
> What about those people who earn tons of money collecting economic rents on all the capital and other property they own?
I love how all these revolutionary fantasies always start with the same concept "these greedy capitalist pigs do nothing and get all the money!", as if everything was given to them to just profit from; and even if you want to play the inheritance card, as if their ancestors got the same benefit.
I didn't say they do nothing, I said they don't work for it. Travis Kalanick is a billionaire but he didn't get that money by driving millions of people around in his own car; he paid people (with investor money, no less) to do it for him. You can talk all you want about the huge risk involved in growing a startup but guys like Kalanick will never end up on a street corner holding a filthy cardboard sign.
I don't find it flawed at all. The Public Works Administration (PWA) during the depression put many able-bodied men (and women?) to work, and built many public facilities - including parks - that we all benefit from today. I don' think the men and women who participated in PWA considered it "soul destroyingly meaningless". But perhaps there was a different work ethic then.
What's with the "bullshit jobs" thesis I see around HN these days? How is working as a cook for a software engineer less bullshit than writing software? At the end of the day the cook can point to something he has done, right?
There are plenty of unnecessary jobs, especially in large companies (anecdotal, I have friends working in a local bank and from what I hear, they could easily replace half their workforce with one or two actually competent people -- and before anyone questions this, these are people who created a database table with 7000! columns) and government.
A "bullshit" job is one created only for the purpose of creating a job. That is, its unnecessary or redundant and only exists because we've decided that people need jobs and we don't have enough "necessary" or "socially contributing" jobs.
There are also lots of factory, agriculture, logistics, manual labour jobs that I believe will soon (next 10 to 20 years) be replaced by automation, be it robotics, self-driving vehicles or software. It also seems to me that the jobs that are in my opinion most likely to be automated are the ones that currently employ the largest amount of people.
Is money really an end for anyone? People seem to have more interesting terminal goals: to win, to live in a well-regarded area, to have financial security in tough times, to get paid "what they're worth", to own nice things, to travel, to get to the front of the pack, to retire early, etc.
Those aren't necessarily very good goals, but they're more complicated and much harder to do away with than just lust for money.
> to "win" ... to get to the "front of the pack" etc.
and "making money" are all pretty much man-made measures of social success and self-worth, which would be meaningless in a post-scarcity society.
I mean, in some cultures, "winning" included having a large number of wives and slaves. In today's world, someone with such achievements would be out of place and seen as archaic.
What does it mean to "get to the front of the pack" when everybody can have [figuratively] everything and nobody needs to work?
Instead, success would (hopefully) be defined by what you can create and discover, or how many people you can entertain.
> Instead, success would (probably) be defined by what you can create and discover, or how many people you can entertain.
That has actually already happened. Current marketing focuses strongly on enjoying non-expensive but creative lifestyle, instead of showing off wealth.
"Winning" and "getting to the front of the pack" would definitely still be relevant in a post-scarcity society. Material wealth would just stop being a proxy for those (although some forms of material wealth would always be scarce and usable as status signals, eg. unique works of art).
There is no post scarcity society without a post enlightened society.
Theres far too many people who will look at someone without a job and say "work harder, you moocher", and then argue using first order logic without any facts or context to say that all safety nets should be taken away to ensure that people dont become sloth like.
Add to that, the manipulation of the media, and manipulation by the media and you have the perfect constraints to ensure that people there will never be a post scarcity society.
Maybe for regular Joes like you and me. But do you think the ultra rich are still just trying to buy comfort and things with the heaps of money they store up?
> Candelia is one of a number of so-called “Potemkin” companies operating in France.
> Everything about these entities is imaginary from the customers, to the supply chain, to the banks, to the “wages” employees receive and while the idea used to be that the creation of a “parallel economic universe” would help to train the jobless and prepare them for real employment sometime in the future, these “occupations” are now serving simply as way for the out-of-work to suspend reality for eight hours a day
Society fears a large unoccupied class. Whether that fear is warranted or not is a different thing.
A better option would be to employ more people in the sciences. There is still a lot to be discovered and labs I have worked in have a range of work to be done from the low skilled cleaning glassware to high skilled design of experiments.
While I've never seen a graying Chia Pet before, I would've preferred a link to the NYT article [0] on which that blog post was based. The blog post wasn't even by him, it was just republished from ZeroHedge where it was credited to "Tyler Durden."
It's an interesting story, I had not heard of "practice firms" as a form of training for the unemployed. They don't really say how long people stay in the training program, I think one quoted person had been there for four months, which seems like a long time. "The success rate of the training centers is high. About 60 to 70 percent of those who go through France’s practice firms find jobs, often administrative positions, Mr. Troton said.
But in a reflection of the shifting nature of the European workplace, most are low-paying and last for short stints, sometimes just three to six months."
It's absolutely warranted. I spent time in South Africa, specifically Johannesburg and Durban, and due to completely unrestricted immigration there is a massive unemployed population (there simply isn't enough work for all the people coming in to the country), and crime rates have gone through the roof.
"Idle hands are the Devil's workshop." Human beings do not naturally drift towards societally beneficial behaviour when lacking productive activities to engage in.
This puritanical belief makes the idea of Basic Income politically un-doable through most of the world, along with the belief that a living is something that must be earned through productive work.
Human nature isn't anywhere near as simplistic as economists tend to believe. That is why half the theories doesn't work in reality, people are far from the rational actors they're made out to be.
> This puritanical belief makes the idea of Basic Income politically un-doable through most of the world, along with the belief that a living is something that must be earned through productive work.
It's just a framing problem.
For example, the Earned Income Tax Credit in the US is a small de facto UBI. If you eliminated all US welfare programs and used all the money to increase the amount of the EITC you will have effectively solved the problem.
In theory the EITC requires you to earn money, but if you eliminated the loss of welfare benefits that currently occurs if you report earning any amount of money, suddenly you'll discover that everybody everywhere has "income" from doing odd jobs for their friends and so on, most of which they've been doing the whole time in exchange for in-kind services but (illegally!) not reporting it as income because reporting it previously caused a net loss rather than a net gain.
> immigration there is a massive unemployed population (there simply isn't enough work for all the people coming in to the country), and crime rates have gone through the roof.
The situation in South Africa is far more nuanced. Due to a sham government and a badly fractured education system, the immigrants to South Africa are generally more skilled and far more employable than many locals. The immigrants also open shops and are more entrepreneurial. There might be some crime from foreigners, but surely we don't need to go making blanket statements like this. This is the kind of thing said by mob leaders during buildup to xenophobic attacks, which surely you know actually take place in South Africa.
Modern bourgeois society, with its relations of production, of exchange and of property, a society that has conjured up such gigantic means of production and of exchange, is like the sorcerer who is no longer able to control the powers of the nether world whom he has called up by his spells.
Yes, that's largely what Disney does, repackage existing folklore in a way that modern society wants to consume.
At least the American culture is well aware of Fantasia and the brooms with buckets scene. Whatever earlier work? Only someone with specialist knowledge could tell you which work it had been derived from.
If they're not a burden on the rest of society, then there's nothing wrong with that. I take issue with able-bodied people not working, and collecting welfare while contributing nothing - which is a problem worth billions of dollars in my country.
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> Social problems like alcoholism and drugs are talked about as if they would be same as being unemployed. It is odd conflation, it is not the same, not even nearly.
When comparing two things, it's useful to understand what is the comparison being made. Of course these things aren't the same in general sense of things - but as far as making a man "unmarriable" (as in statistically desired by either gender for a long-term relationship and partnership), they have a pretty similar effect, don't they?
I'd assert that not living anywhere near you is a similar impediment. If women can find local employment, but men have to move into the cities, even if everyone's employed that's going to affect the number of marriages.
My Dad was an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. A pretty serious one, but functional. But he held down a white-color job at a shipping company for which he was paid pretty well, and we lived a pretty comfortable lifestyle.
He always had a temper - he gave us lots of spankings. By some measures, maybe he was abusive, but he never hit us or left bruises with his belt. He just tending to give out those "whooping" at the drop of a hat if he'd had too much to drink.
Then he lost his job when the major job provider in town closed. He kept trying to find a new one, but it was never a good one. For someone that had spent 15 years making good money at something he was apparently pretty good at, working menial low-paying jobs was devastating to him.
His alcoholism got worse, and pretty soon he wasn't able to hold down even the menial jobs. Needless to say, my parents marriage fell apart.
I haven't seen the statistics, so I do not know. However,for pregnant young women, marring alcoholic or junkie is freaking stupid idea. Marrying unemployed to soldier on together makes more sense.
> I haven't seen the statistics, so I do not know. However,for pregnant young women, marring alcoholic or junkie is freaking stupid idea. Marrying unemployed to soldier on together makes more sense.
Not necessarily. A woman might be better off holding out for someone with a job. Especially when she isn't already pregnant.
No, because this ignores the cause & effect reality of nature. If people are turning to drug-based stimuli for the purpose of numbing and unfulfilled life of 1) no sexual partners 2) few job prospects, then we should not act as if the drugs are the first-tier causes of their predicament...
Anyone who has seen the upper echelons of society knows how many drugs are used up there too - and therefore knows that they are not first tier-causes (of being on the bottom) in every use case.
For the rich, there are challenges of ennui and expectations. And that drives “shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations”. Maybe it's not so unrelated.
I thought those sayings came from the idea that we get lazy when we have a lot... I've never heard that the proposed cause is drug use - any sources on that?
There may be published studies, but I haven't looked. But consider the Beats. Most of them were trust-fund kids. Or the people who hung around Warhole. Or the early college hippies, protected against arrest by institutional influence. Or what they used to call the jet set.
Drug use is common among wealthy kids because they're so well protected from consequences. All children like to experiment, and have fun. So why not?
I knew a guy who burned through his inheritance, and then became a heroin smuggler. He used his friends as unwitting drug mules, and kept living the high life on the profits. But then one of them got busted, and sold him out. Oops.
I didn't make an argument to not look at root causes for anything. If your argument is that I'm being inconsistent, then you're wrong. Is your argument: "it isn't worth it to discuss causes in this case?"
Yeah, I guess. But actually, that's a pretty standard characterization, I think.
Me, I'm amused by the title of George Lakof's Women, Fire, and Dangerous Things: What Categories Reveal About the Mind . But actually, it turns out that "Women are not dangerous things", according to Plaster and Polinsky (2007).[0]
That's by the way among the only books I've bought due to the title alone, without knowing what it was about.
And it was an interesting read (basically about categories/measure words/collective nouns, "families" of meaning or "radial" categories, and rejection of the good old Aristotelian notion of definition as membership in a class together with some more specific boolean predicate, e.g. "a bachelor is a man that is not married").
Anyways, great title, great book. Interesting paper you posted, though I don't recall whether Lakoff actually made the case that Dyirbal speakers saw women as dangerous. The paper suggests that "there is no synchronic conceptual association among all of the items in a given gender class; in particular, the smaller subsets within a class do not need to be radially related to the semantic core. The overall class membership is motivated only diachronically, and even then not necessarily on semantic grounds." - would Lakoff disagree?
I read the book decades ago, so ... But no, I don't recall that he argued that Dyirbal speakers thought of women as dangerous. It was just a sensational title. And that's why I cited the paper.
For what it's worth, I read it together with Illuminatus! by Shea and Wilson and Lessing's Canopus in Argos series, and found the mix immensely transformational :)
AIDS causes deaths, and car crashes cause deaths. Am I putting them in the same category? Is that wrong to do? Getting breast implants requires general anesthesia and a lung transplant requires general anesthesia. Am I putting them in the same category? Is that wrong to do?
For instance, dudes that joined military or found work in different city are not on local marriage market, but they are marriageable wherever they currently are.
Well, given the 18 -> 40% single mother increase, it's not a zero sum game. Not all women who would have married from the factory worker pool are now marrying into the white collar pool; many of them are simply choosing not to marry.
"Good" articles, linking to extreme degenerate pedophilia propaganda site, the Salon[1].
Where were their toxic Islam and toxic homophobia articles following the Orlando shooting? They like to rant about toxic masculinity only after shootings done by white males[2]. Yet not a peep about it when it's Cho Seung Huis or Omar Mateens doing the shootings.
Excuse me? Did you even read the NYMag article you posted? Allow me to provide some quotes:
"Now, as Hoffner and Salon surely know, things live forever on the internet, so you can still read the original Nickerson article here. And doing so makes it clear that Salon took a silly, overly risk-averse approach here, likely caving to a chorus of voices who willfully misunderstood the article. That’s unfortunate, since this was a brave and important article to publish — one the site should be proud of rather than try, futilely, to toss down the memory-hole."
Later:
"No reasonable reader could construe this as pro-pedophilia. Nickerson is explicitly saying his condition has hampered his life immensely and that he is simply hoping to scratch out a decent existence without hurting anybody. That’s the entire point of the article — nowhere does he defend sexual contact between adults and minors. Why, then, was his article deleted? It sounds like Salon won’t ever provide an explanation."
After reading your comment, you're the only one that's coming off like a propagandist.
"Fewer men were working in manufacturing, which tended to mean their wages were lower than they had been when manufacturing had more of a presence in their area. And their wages were not significantly higher than women’s wages, which they had been during the heyday of manufacturing. (Fewer women worked in manufacturing in the first place, so they were less affected by the shocks.)
"This made the men less appealing to the women, the authors suggest—so there were fewer marriages. They find that trade shocks reduced the share of young women who were married, and reduced the number of births per woman."
In terms of marriage candidates, those are the same problem (except those who had moved elsewhere).
I disagree with the title and message with its overall sentiment.
Yes, old school partnerships are dying, but that doesn't make males more disposable.
If anything,it gives men and women more options and opens up our society to fine tuning. (effects of large scale single momhood/dadhood, competetive job markets and novel family and supporting social structures) the old was nice, but if a single unit can function and achieve what a complex unit used to, wed all benefit. Supposing the experiment doesn't end in failure and twist society. Though even if it does, we'll self correct. After all, nature still rules us.
It's a culture of work hard, fuck-young and marry-old(er) for partnership for the coming future, we'll see where that takes us.
I don't see how factory jobs vanishing give men more options. Yes, for the lucky few who still have marketable jobs that aren't subsidized by the public sector, they have more money and options. For the vast majority of men, the job market is a much more brutal place than it was before with a lot fewer actual options.
I understand your argument, but it assumes humans don't adapt.
So what if the coal mines close down?
We dont live in aculture where needs stop evolving. Where there's a need, there's industry of some sort.
Humans brains adapt, especially generationally.
I dont see Germany suffering any detrimental consequences of the modern workplace (where I am right now) and infact it's flourishing.
That Said, the education system and the industrial system works close together here, and it's a better system than most. So countries need to pitch in to the effort if educating it's populace for modern day jobs
Because Germany has protectionist tariffs similar to those Trump wants to implement. E.g it is not cheaper to outsource plants to Mexico and import BMW back to Germany.
Partly because the German currency is severely undervalued for its economy (because it's held down by the other eurozone countries), favoring exports. In a sense, the other eurozone countries are subsidizing German exports. If the euro went away, and Germany switched back to the Mark, exports would be corrected downwards, and jobs would leave since Made in Germany wouldn't be profitable anymore.
Then people need to get a very good education to get one of the new jobs. Because the old jobs are dying out, those you could get into with little education.
The problem for men? That boys fare far worse in school than girls. This gets rarely addressed, e.g. the vast difference in reading comprehension.
Boys then should just adapt? Well, whenever women seem to have a disadvantage (the whole MINT-discussion), society is supposed to fix it. Whenever men have problems, they remain their individual problems, and it's definitely their fault. No systemic forces here to be seen, move along everybody.
A last comment about Germany: The lack of jobs for unskilled workers is definitely a huge problem. It makes it incredibly difficult to integrate everybody with a, shall we say, sub-par education. Almost half of the Turkish hailing migrants in Berlin are unemployed. 75 % of them did not graduate from secondary school.
Unfortunately it's mainly German sources. I hope Google Translate can help here. They may also report different numbers, depending on who would be included in "Turkish migrants". Some address Turkish citizens (who have a work permit in Germany), some address German citizens of Turkish descent.
> Some 30 percent of Turkish immigrants and their children don't have a school leaving certificate, and only 14 percent do their Abitur, as the degree from Germany's top-level high schools is called -- that's half the average of the German population.
This article from 2016 references a report from the Federal Statistical Office of Germany. It states that over 40 % of the Turkish immigrants and their children only achieve a very basic school leaving certificate ("Hauptschulabschluss"). With this type of certificate, it is difficult in Germany to even get into a vocational school. Also, over 1/3 of the Turkish immigrants are poor: They earn less that 60 % of the mean income.
Out of the 3 million Turkish migrants in Germany, 275,000 have received unemployment benefits in 2015. Only people actively seeking employment are eligible for those benefits. I could not find the absolute number for Germany for this population. But for the whole of Germany, we have 39 million workers, out of a population of over 80 million. The Turkish migrants tend to be younger, so a larger percentage does not belong to the workforce yet.
I would therefore assume that the unemployment rate is around 20 % for Turkish migrants in Germany, and considerably higher in Berlin, due to the "special" economic status of Berlin as a whole. The article below is from 2001 and has them at 42 %:
boys suck at school not because boys are bad at school, it's because school sucks and is today fine tuned for women.
there's a distinct need to revise all schooling before it's too late, tbfh. the men of old were very well educated, those who could get an education. but it was a harsh education, so the world today isn't willing to deal with it.
if boys sucked so much at reading and writing, we wouldn't have had all those male authors or male scientists. the system's whacked now, and it'll crash and crumble before it's fixed, especially in germany with their switch to MBAs, worsening school systems, and neglect of young boys (have nothing against trying to push women forward, just don't forget the boys)
That's a different issue all together. The very rich and the very poor are a unique clustering, but not at all fixed. Generationally, they're not stuck. There is movement in those clusters.
I view these two minorities as a result of governmental neglect,corruption or/and policy.
Can you argue about how the topic at hand affects them? Maybe I don't follow your argument well enough.
Adaptation can take a while (particularly if its generational). Many things have to go right for it to happen smoothly. While society and people are adapting, there will likely be many workers who are unable/unwilling to re-skill to compete in other job markets. Many people will be without work as those markets will become highly competitive. They will also likely require years of university, increasing the economic load on society.
You seem to have a lot of faith in education systems in a capitalist environment. My own observations is that universities are just enrolling students in courses regardless of there being jobs available in those fields or not - as long as they are making a profit. I doubt governments can move fast enough to develop proper education systems to educate the population for modern day jobs.
The government sticking its nose in this process (among other things via student loans, leading to the escalating price of university education) is one of the things perverting the pricing signal wrt education. I have little faith in a good outcome even if (maybe especially if) governments "move fast" in this space.
The majority of the population opting out of traditional higher-ed would be a wholesale benefit to the current state of affairs, imo, as it would allow something more suitable to appear.
i do have a lot of faith, but it's in education and the human spirit in general. i don't view capitalism as a thing that'll stick around for long since it's severely predatory and wrecking havoc on the 3rd world. that said im no hippy. we need free enterprise, but we need effective oversight and better resource management, schooling included. right now we're led by blind leaders, but then again, considering this is all natural, this is the /best/ we can do /now/. we'll hopefully do better tomorrow.
systems such as the one switzerland has (tight coupling of industry and education) are not bad at all, but it requires an informed public, and more imprtantly, informed lateral-thinking politicians.
the coming crises will test us, and i believe we'll come out stronger, albeit with a few bruises and some lasting scars.
yes, yes it is. i am hopeful for the future, but i do worry for the present.
what do you suggest we do about it? i have a few plans after im done with my studies which include education centers, but ill need to delve deeper into the issue first, something my studies currently don't allow.
It doesn't give men more options. It puts a lot of unexpected pressure on men to adapt.
And adaptation is a real challenge, because it may mean learning completely new technical skills as well as completely new social and political skills as well as being unusually creative and inventive - and most men have to attempt this after a very poor education and little or no mentoring or modelling of the possibilities.
In the past, men could get by fairly passively because the job-market was full of ready-made slots for them. They could turn up and fill a slot and money would start flowing.
Now the slots have to be invented before they can be filled. That immediately disenfranchises the 90% or so of the population who aren't particularly creative or entrepreneurial.
And even if a slot is invented, the odds of lasting success aren't great. Most projects fail, and failure isn't tolerated well.
So we've gone from an open job market with limited selection pressure and relatively easy rewards to a very closed and challenging job market which only works for maybe 5% of the male population - specifically unusually intelligent, creative/inventive, socially connected and/or wealthy, or just plain sociopathic men.
It's a huge, huge change, and I don't think we've even started to see the effects.
Great comment and as the father of two boys, 17 and 15, this has kept me up nights and has put some strain on my relationship with them. While both show some aptitude and modest interest in technology I don't foresee either of them pursuing a technical field.
If we eliminate STEM fields from the set of options, the prospects for young men to earn as past generations seems to be drastically reduced.
There's a real problem that's being tackled by those trials for basic income. We don't live in post war time of plenty. What scares me is thus seeming runaway information inflation and landgrabbing by people who don't rent out or up rent prices top high. People have job.. It's just that we are getting pushed to a corner.
It's not the absence of a job that'll Choke us, it's the pricing of things with ill adapted wages. I'm in IT, but still,I can see trouble down the road thst I'm trying to tackle now.
> Supposing the experiment doesn't end in failure and twist society. Though even if it does, we'll self correct. After all, nature still rules us.
Well that's the problem, isn't it? The self-correction is for nature to destroy us so that something else can take our place.
It's completely possible for births to be below the population replacement rate until the people die out. It already is in first world countries save for immigration, and that can't save you if the third world industrializes and automates to the point they're in the same situation.
If we don't want that to happen we may have to start finding ways to enable people to marry and have more children.
Wait, what? In a world where the population keeps increasing, automation is and will continue to drive unemployment, and environmental destruction is rampant... you're concerned that we're going to die out for lack of breeding?
> In a world where the population keeps increasing, automation is and will continue to drive unemployment, and environmental destruction is rampant... you're concerned that we're going to die out for lack of breeding?
Neither unemployment nor environmental destruction is incompatible with population decline.
The unemployment rate is independent of the population size, because fewer people means less demand which means proportionally fewer jobs.
And unchecked evil corporations can perfectly well automate environmental destruction and carry it out with a minimum number of people.
You might want to look at specifically _where_ the population keeps increasing. It isn't in the West where we have modern social values but rather, um, less enlightened places. The United States is currently below replacement birth rate and Japan dramatically so.
A culture and society which devalues having children and raising them properly, even as a side effect of a nobler purpose, is one that will die out and be replaced with another.
The title is a simple quantifiable assertion taken directly from the conclusion of the research [0] while your comment is just an opinion. I encourage you to read the conclusion to the paper and its supporting analysis - and then to argue with the data, or to at least propose something falsifiable.
Wow, I just looked at the title of the paper, and it's the opposite of the HN title: one is about marriage (yes, of course jobs matter a lot), the other is about relationships. Number of married years per person is declining, number of relationships without babies are increasing.
What are the options for men who want to have a family/live with their children?
I guess men who just want to have sex might benefit, because they can just sleep with women and then leave, and society takes care of the single moms. Likewise, women can have more sex with varying partners.
The downside is not having a family or having a stressful family life (as a single mom).
And for the absent dads, the state will try to get the money back from them, so their outlook isn't pretty. They'll bend up being poor and lonely.
The main downside is for the children. Believe me, you would not want to be the child of such a man or such a woman.[0] This is worse than lack of iodine, lead in the pipes, or congenital deformities from pregnant drug abuse. It's a societal time-bomb.
> Children living in female headed families with no spouse present had a poverty rate of 47.6 percent, over 4 times the rate in married-couple families.
> The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states, “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse.”
> Children of single-parent homes are more than twice as likely to commit suicide.
> Children age 10 to 17 living with two biological or adoptive parents were significantly less likely to experience sexual assault, child maltreatment, other types of major violence, and non-victimization type of adversity, and were less likely to witness violence in their families compared to peers living in single-parent families and stepfamilies.
The "gender roles" crowd is deeply dogmatic and misguided, and it's having incredible consequences.
That doesn't take into account the fact that (through no fault of their own, and meriting no shame), single parents are pretty systematically worse statistically than bioparents in a nuclear household. Take into account the impact of parental "abandonment" on the child, which is traumatic regardless of whether the abandonment was voluntary or not, and regardless of whether it's one parent no longer seeing a child at all, or the other parent seeing the child less because she has to work harder to provide; both count as "abandonment" emotionally, and can be traumatizing.
Single-parent families, step-families all require better parenting, management, and communication skills, since they're more complex, and these parents aren't more skilled than the average, with predictable consequences.
Check the statistics on "fatherless" households, children of single mothers perform worse on every single metric. Worse academically, commit more crime (and much more rape), more runaways, more addictions, the list goes on.
> Yes, old school partnerships are dying, but that doesn't make males more disposable.
Implies that "old school partnerships" are dying, but being replaced by something new. That's not the case. It's not a case of old-thing-evolving-into-a-new-thing. It isn't being replaced by anything, just being destroyed. I'll bet you single mothers are much less happy than married women, especially in their 50s and 60s, not to mention the increased likelihood of being abused by dates, strings of failed relationships, increased stress, and loneliness.
tbh you're preaching to the choir here, i believe in 2-parent models for the sake of spending more time with the child and nurturing it better.
that said, ill add that single parents of the past are often a result of a broken house hold. the single parents of the future will do so by choice, this will give rise to interesting dynamics, i think.
it isn;t replaced by anything right now, but crises leads to break through, we might/(most likely will?) deal with is, as nature would have us, by either coming up with a new paradigm, or breaking then reverting to (a better?) version of the old.
maybe im an optimist, but ive seen so much shit, and the world is knee deep in shit these days that i need to believe that we'll make it.
to deal with this issue i personally would suggest community (kibutz style?) child care, which ironically echoes a communist tint, to deal with time-not-spent with children. top that with corporate/workplace restructuring (ala sweden with mandatory father-time as well as mandatory mom-time off for birth) and we'd be on our way.
one issue i do see is old age and loneliness. i see so many lonely old people here in europe. for now, females are growing older and finding it more difficult to find a partner after choosing not to marry. the men are reluctant to take an older woman as a partner, and while i understand hypergamy, im not sure i understand why the older men are not taking mid-30-smth women as partners.
also, i dont understand why can't couples marry and support each other's careers and just have kids later. is it so unnatural? it might boil down to the socioeconomics of hypergamy, which is a thought that leaves a bitter taste in my mouth, to think that our females are "programmed" as such is no comforting notion.
If you're ever in doubt about tech's sexism problem, revisit one of the HN comment threads where gender roles come up and marvel at the unchecked support for the idea that women should be stay-at-home mothers. Then, for bonus points, check out a divorce thread.
Civilization was built on all sorts of identity-based subjugation relationships and as we chip away at them, in the long run, it gets better.
If your implicit assumption is true (women only stay in relationships because they require a partner's income to survive) then we have a moral imperative to provide escape hatches from those toxic relationships as quickly as possible.
This is what's wrong with politics today. Every question gets moralised. Every opinion gets evaluated on a scale from angel to bigot instead of true to false.
It is a bit problematic that the original comment doesn't seem to consider women as potential provider for a family and the narrative is centered around a male provider.
Evolution has made men the provider. In the old days (not even that long ago) being pregnant makes a woman vulnerable, while raising children takes time and effort. It made sense for a male to provide for his family while the female was less able to do so. The gender roles are a result of evolution, and womens desire for a man with social and/or economic standing are just as ingrained as a mans desire for visual signs of fertility in a woman.
Evolution works on the level of genes. It literally cannot prescribe complex social roles. "In the old days", both men and women worked full-time at various tasks: hunting, gathering, mending, caring, building, planting, harvesting, etc.
Citiation? I would think that evolution certainly plays a role in selecting for instinctive behaviors (such as preferences in a mate) that benefit survival
> It literally cannot prescribe complex social roles
It absolutely can. Evolutionary psychology is science, and it's based on the scientific method (ironically, unlike the sociology that's obsessed with "gender roles", which isn't based on science at all). Check out Gad Saad's podcast on Joe Rogan.
If you're ever in doubt about the regressive left's tunnel vision and lack of critical thinking, just visit one of these threads, and watch the people unable to distinguish descriptive from normative claims come out of the woodwork, dropping the mandatory moralising chastisement about toxicity and sexism.
From the article it seems the problem is that women continue to seek providers, despite what decades of feminism have tried to tell them they should want.
Do you see what you did here? Someone comes up with a hypothesis that is scientific and not a moral question, and you succeed in politicizing and moralizing it in one fell swoop. Why is it important to derail this line of questioning? If government and welfare systems effect the organization of families, relationships, reproduction, courtship - and the like - then isn't that a worthy thing to study?
Nope. I'm implying that trying to suggest an assertion that affects political discourse and thus real people's lives is "just a scientific hypothesis" is not on.
I'm not sure how fearing that universal basic income would significantly decrease monogamous relationships is opinion presented as far. I'm not going to defend this other commenter, but it is a reasonable topic that I don't like to see get derailed so easily.
>revisit one of the HN comment threads where gender roles come up and marvel at the unchecked support for the idea that women should be stay-at-home mothers.
As someone who's hung around this place along time, I'd love to see a link of a discussion with "unchecked" claims that women should stay home.
> If you're ever in doubt about tech's sexism problem, revisit one of the HN comment threads where gender roles come up and marvel at the unchecked support for the idea that women should be stay-at-home mothers. Then, for bonus points, check out a divorce thread.
And then look how many people have ideas about what's "natural" that come straight out of Victorian etiquette books.
Your comment is the epitome of social-justice dogma.
> marvel at the unchecked support for the idea that women should be stay-at-home mothers.
Learn the difference between positive and normative. There is a huge difference between "mothers should be stay-at-home mothers", and "widespread celibacy will cause societal instability"?
> women only stay in relationships because they require a partner's income to survive
Obviously, taking GP's point to an absurd (strawman) and then dismissing that isn't a reasonable debate strategy. People get married for a whole load of reasons. Many women, if their partners lose their jobs, will divorce them. No, that doesn't mean they're abused victims. (is that parody?)
Turning an interesting question based on trends into a moral outrage, and hijacking the conversation, is infinitely puerile. Please don't do that.
Parent claims that women would divorce their partners on a scale large enough to be a threat to civilization if women were to receive UBI, because they would no longer need male providers.
Do you have some explanation for why this might be the case, other than "the need for a male provider" being (in parent's view) the only thing holding those at-risk relationships together?
>Many women, if their partners lose their jobs, will divorce them.
Preferring to be in a relationship with a well-employed men is very different from needing a male provider as a condition of well-being or survival.
>Turning an interesting question based on trends into a moral outrage
Fear and dismay at the proposition that women might stop needing male providers is morally outrageous, particularly when you consider that people who believe women receiving income threatens civilization are likely in a position to influence the hire/no hire decision on female candidates in our industry.
There's no "unchecked support" for anything on HN, let alone "the idea that women should be stay-at-home mothers". HN is divided the way society at large is. All sorts of comments appear here, and inevitably some are noxious. This is what happens with any large-enough sample of people, especially on the internet.
I find it odd that the article manages to completely ignore/miss the effect of welfare and the change in incentives it may result in. Also, it appears that statistically, single mothers are much more likely to vote Left than Right.
In the sci-fi movie Advantageous, a future society with a lot more automation, has high unemployment rates. Recruitment (which in the movie is mostly done by AI) eventually evolves to a consensus whereby most jobs are assigned to men because otherwise society would become a lot more dangerous to everyone.
> Also, it appears that statistically, single mothers are much more likely to vote Left than Right.
If you're married to the state, then you vote for more of the state. It's one of the many examples where liberty has been eroded in recent decades, but few talk about it because it's a sensitive topic.
Absolutely. For a country referred to as "the land of the free" you surely have a lot of "sensitive topics". As soon as I posted my comment, I started getting down-voted. I believe the post was quite factual, not offensive in any way or prejudicial, so I can only imagine it was affecting someone's sensitivity.
Why do you attribute it to welfare instead of the habitual villainization of single mothers by Republicans? I wouldn't vote for someone who disparages my life situation, particularly if it were a difficult one.
I'm not claiming that welfare is what it should be attributed to. Just saying that I think it should be part of the debate anytime anyone looks into these social issues like the article above does.
> habitual villainization of single mothers by Republicans
This is the first I'm hearing of this. I know the right is against "leeches," but I've yet to see them single out single mothers.
Unless you're referring to undertones in their (Republicans') way of conduct. If so, then I wouldn't expect single mothers to be able to recognize the subtlety.
Ah yes, the sweet liberty of being unable to provide for your children. Welfare is a pitifully small percent of the budget compared to military, health, and education not to mention the massive amounts of corporate welfare that happens ("I'll get those taxes down for you"). But you're right it's the left voting single moms that erode our liberty. What about the right-voting single moms? Are they "welfare queens" eroding our liberty too or are they just good people who had to make a tough choice?
That is a straw man argument. Saying that a lot more money is spent elsewhere does not refute the potential effects of welfare.
Also claiming that tax reduction is a form of welfare if very disingenuous since basically that would mean the State would be entitled to take all of your profit by default... meaning any amount of profit allowed would be welfare.
Where's the straw man I'm constructing? I'm just saying that no liberty is being eroded (in fact the opposite) and that any monetary objections to welfare are absurd in proportion to the frothiness spewed about in forums.
I've been on welfare before. It quite literally saved my life and helped me out big time. Now I run a very profitable business and give back much to the society and community that helped me out. Anyone who rants and raves about welfare probably hasn't actually been on it - it's almost a starvation wage, but it can make a serious difference.
The people who rant about 'freedom' and 'liberty' don't seem to mind when you give those up working for a private sector corp or the erosions caused by massive firms lobbying congress to write employment and tax laws in their favor.
Also corporate welfare isn't the same thing as regular "welfare" - try looking up some terms before you post in here so you don't look like a dumbass. Because "corporate welfare" is quite literally defined as the subsidy of private business by government using incentives such as tax reductions / abatements.
Yup, I just looked up "dumbass" and it's not nice. Way to go in trying to keep the discussion civil.
If you were paying attention, you would see I never said I was against welfare. Only that you can't have a decent debate on this subject and completely ignore it.
It's not a "straw man", it's more like reductio ad absurdum.
And if you'll remember the 1990s, the entire plan to cut welfare benefits was premised on the Earned Income Tax Credit taking up the slack. Which actually worked in some ways though, if anything, it makes it easier for single mothers to provide for a family by working a low wage job. Which has distorted the "marriage market" though in different ways from the welfare benefit.
You aren't looking this from a bigger picture. The more infrastructure that is put in place to protect single parents, the more infrastructure that gets in the way for standard families. Basic building blocks for society like marriage become less appealing because the state is too involved in the process.
It doesn't really matter how much welfare costs (obviously it should kept under control like military, health and education) and that's why I didn't mention that aspect. All I'm concerned about is the state becoming so involved in an individual's life, that it nannies them like a parent.
>The more infrastructure that is put in place to protect single parents, the more infrastructure that gets in the way for standard families. Basic building blocks for society like marriage become less appealing because the state is too involved in the process.
Huh? Marriage itself is a legal construct by the state, no different than a corporation. Is a corporation a "basic building block for society" too? Should it be? What makes you think marriage is such a great thing that society should be dependent upon it? Statistics show that it's a massive gamble, and you're more likely to lose with it than you are to benefit. On top of that, the risks are enormous: child support, alimony, and in many cases, bankruptcy.
>All I'm concerned about is the state becoming so involved in an individual's life, that it nannies them like a parent.
That's funny, coming from someone who obviously supports marriage, which is absolutely an example of the state nannying people and becoming involved in an individual's life. Try going through a contested divorce and tell me the state wasn't involved.
The simple fact is that your "standard familes" are a complete and utter failure. Society needs an all-new paradigm, because clinging to this archaic institution clearly isn't working.
Or, you know, given how wed conservatives have been to the Evangelicals, you tend not to vote for people that tell you you're a sinner and demonize your lifestyle. Homosexuals similarly vote more Left than Right.
I'm not convinced of the effect, especially in the context of single mothers and divorce. Welfare would seem to decrease the incentive to divorce an unemployed husband. I've also seen claims that just 100-150 years ago a lower proportion of men were married, and far more died childless, which would go against the narrative trend if true (but who knows if they are).
That's because women don't decide to have children in order to get welfare, they decide to get welfare because they got pregnant. Also, as a community starts to go downhill, couples often have less access to birth control and other family planning options, especially those who are "just getting by" to begin with.
The only people who actually seem to think that welfare causes these problems, are the ones who don't think we should be paying welfare. People who are on welfare or know those on that kind of assistance know better.
Please don't post generalizations about HN as a rhetorical device. Plenty of differing views on American history get expressed here—unfortunately often leading to flamewars. That's in the nature of inflammatory material, and your comment certainly doesn't help.
At the rate of which women are approaching fields like IT, I think women are equally as screwed. There are not a lot of women that have the heart and commitment to programming or any other field in IT.
If you read TRP there is really nothing to see in this article at all. It's nothing but confirmation of what we already know. Socio-economic status is what matters to women. It's an evolutionary adaptation that's still in play.
Let's not jump to evolutionary psychology to explain the phenomenon.
It's also possible that the woman is just making a rational decision for the well-being of her children.
A single mother who marries a man with low earnings and no real prospect of ever earning more will mean she's scraping by the rest of her life. If she believes she has a realistic chance of marrying someone who earns more, it's logical to continue to play the field.
I don't know what single mothers have to do with any of the discussion here. At best, they're a small subset of the total number of women that would exhibit the described behaviour.
Finally, it's pretty sexist to imply that it's justified for the woman to make a rational decision for her children, rather than both parents deserving equal weight in deciding the well-being of their children.
The article was about women getting married less, even when they had children. So it has everything to do with the discussion.
Also, sure, both parents can make decisions for the well-being of the child, but if you're implying that the woman should marry the man if she doesn't want to because he wants to marry her, then you're the one being sexist.
The parent to my original reply is invoking evolution to explain why a woman would or wouldn't want someone as a partner. Those arguments always end up being sexist, attributing women's desires not to rational decision making but to whatever desires the man imagines evolution has instilled into the woman.
You know how it goes. Women are emotional and do primary emotions based decisions, until it seems like some subset of women made cold rational decision. At that point, it is all about evolution and genes. Or they are evil. Can't possibly be anything else.
>> attributing women's desires not to rational decision making but to whatever desires the man imagines evolution has instilled into the woman.
You were correct to point out that it is rational self-interest on the part of the woman. My point is that because it makes sense, evolution will have selected for that behavior. It is also present in mammals of lower intelligence than humans, so it seems likely that it's a deeper biological phenomenon that just a "rational decision". Either way, the stuff discussed in the article make perfect sense.
> The article was about women getting married less, even when they had children.
Right, so it had nothing to do with being a single mother, and single mothers aren't relevant to this discussion at all.
> Also, sure, both parents can make decisions for the well-being of the child, but if you're implying that the woman should marry the man if she doesn't want to because he wants to marry her, then you're the one being sexist.
Actually, I'm replying to your implicit assumption that the mother is going to be the caregiver, and so her decisions must be rational because she's just looking after her children's well-being. For instance, see your comment:
> A single mother who marries a man with low earnings and no real prospect of ever earning more will mean she's scraping by the rest of her life.
Telling that you don't mention that the man isn't scraping by the rest of his life too.
Well, of course she's "is just making a rational decision for the well-being of her children". I mean, women put their bodies on the line to have children. So it totally makes sense to find a supportive partner.
How about a human who never makes irrational decisions is not really human? Rational != superior. Children happens.
The article is saying today's environment where work is available to women as well as reduced stigma of bring single mothers make it more feasible to be one.
Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. And we can still say they're doing their part to make sure our society have a next generation.
>> Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate.
That is odd. Isn't the proper mate the one that fathered the child? I mean what man is going to care more about the child? What you're really hinting at is AF/BB.
Well if you're going to use the lens of AF/BB... Perhaps the woman thought she could lock down the BB with a pregnancy and thought even if she couldn't she could still go it alone....the father could be "AF" or "BB". So I don't think it's to do with AF/BB.
> Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate.
That's the problem really. Making life better for single mothers is unnecessarily increasing the number of children with single parents. It is just treating the symptom.
The cause is that mothers who are not ready to raise children bring a pregnancy to term. We can attack this in a two ways:
1. Planned parenthood campaigns that make potential mothers believe that they will not be able to handle adulthood
2. Stigmatizing single motherhood
What about the children? The socialized care is already there for them so these incentives shouldn't affect them much.
IMO instead of directly manipulating choices, other solutions can be found - lower cost of living, to encourage people to plan to get married and have children, tax incentives for parents living in the same house, and encouraging gender segregation in schools and high schools to prevent teenage pregnancies.
It sounds like manufacturing jobs left, so the men have no jobs, but the women still have jobs. Yes?
Why won't the men compete for the jobs the women are getting?
Alternatively, the men could stay home and take care of the kids while the women work at the jobs they have, providing the stable two-parent household.
It seems like a large portion of the problem is tied up in men's idea of what constitutes a "manly" role. I don't mean to trivialize the difficulty of changing one's perspective, but changing diapers has to be a better option than dying from an Oxycontin overdose doesn't it?
It's not just a changing of one's perspective. It's the destruction of your whole identity. It feels incredibly jarring and like you're going insane. It's what people with personality "disorders" have to go through to "fix" themselves to fit society.
Feminism, the advocation of equal social and political rights for women? What does that have to do with wanting to form lasting relationships with unemployed men?
Because traditional gender roles dictate that the man in the relationship to be the breadwinner and being a bum doing nothing all day long wouldn't bode well for the woman in the relationship and given that feminists are against the status quo and traditional gender roles, it would look hypocritical that they disqualify a male suitor or partner for a romance or LT relationship based on their LT employment outlook or prospects.
Oh right, traditional gender roles. I thought this feminism was the advocation of equal social and political rights, but actually this is something else on top.
I seem to be an appallingly bad feminist. For me, it's about equal social and political rights, but it turns out it's really all about a whole lot of crazy stuff I don't understand. It's odd that the people who most loudly understand what feminism really is seem to be those opposed to it, and people who simply label themselves feminists (such as myself) end up mystified by where all this extra junk comes from. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps people aren't conflating advocation of equal social and political rights with a whole lot of other things, but it's generally not worth the conversation.
So have equal political and social rights been achieved yet? I'd assume that for political rights, the answer is yes. Not sure about social rights - could you elaborate?
I think you're more than capable of digging up answers to that question yourself. I do apologise if you're genuine; you seem genuine, and your website certainly paints you as a reasonable person, but I've just had too many bad experiences in such discussions online that I no longer engage in them. I'm sure you can imagine the kind of thing. HN in particular seems to suffer from it; a disturbing sense of perceived victimhood in some that poisons their conversation.
The problem with finding examples ourselves is that we don't know what you meant by the terms you used. I, for one, would have some difficulty drawing the line between "social equality" and "other stuff on top", such as getting rid of traditional gender roles.
(what I see as) the mainstream feminist position is that getting rid of traditional gender roles is essential to achieve equal social rights. It's not really equal if one can legally do a thing but everyone else will think it's innappropriate.
Thanks for giving the benefit of the doubt. What you describe as "political rights" I can get fully behind, and it seems to me we're mostly there yet. "Social rights" I'm genuinely not sure what you mean, it seems reasonable. But the problem is that a lot of contemporary feminism seems to entail a lot more (with some of which I disagree), that's why it would be important to understand what is meant by "social rights" here. But fair enough, HN might not be the best place to discuss that in detail.
It's also worth pointing out that there is no "feminism", any more than there is one "american". There are as many meanings and iterative ideas that get labeled as feminism(by originators, and relative strangers) as there are different people in this country.
There's a big gap between not-being-a-breadwinner and being a bum. My sister's ex stopped working and stopped looking for work. That in itself wouldn't have been bad -- they were financially ok. But, she would still come home from her long day of work and do the dishes and laundry and cook supper (for her a chore, not a hobby). I have other friends with unemployed husbands where the dad does 90% of the childcare and most of the housework, and that seems to work out pretty well. People like a team effort, regardless of who is doing what.
This. It is very common for guys who are out of work to be much less productive around the house despite having more time available to dedicate to housework. Tons of guys are not brought up doing housework and being detail-oriented about this stuff, so in a lot of relationships where the guy is at home more often (for whatever reason), he doesn't know how to pick up the slack at home.
I'm not saying this is because those guys are dumb or lazy or malicious; I have trouble with it and don't consider myself those things. My girlfriend and I try to split stuff up evenly (we both have jobs and neither of us likes housework, so we try to be fair), but I still find it hard to remember to do certain things that she has been doing for years (e.g. remembering to clean the toilet bowl), or I will not prioritize certain other things that she makes sure to do promptly (e.g. I will wait longer to do laundry). I am trying to pull my weight, but I can definitely tell that I am catching up to her in housework productivity. And, from most anecdotes I hear, this is a very common (though obviously not universal) phenomenon.
This is not to say that there are not other things wrapped up in this (people are attracted to roles, and I am sure plenty of women in traditional subcultures find jobless men just plain unattractive regardless of their value in other dimensions). But I can definitely see why someone who is already going to have to raise and provide for a kid would be reluctant to bring another person into a lifelong relationship when that other person (judging from widespread anecdotal evidence) will very likely not be much help at home while also not contributing a paycheck.
Housework is like a gas - it will expand to fill any volume of time that you are willing to allocate it. The dirty secret is that not doing some of it, or doing it on a more, eh, relaxed, timescale, doesn't make a whole lot of difference.
Results vary according to your & your partners levels of OCD, however...
not only that, but new housework can be invented out of thin air to fit any sized time or money budget/surplus, which is what the entire home improvement / remodeling industry exists for.
Spot on. Is a little bit of dust on the furniture going to kill you? Sure I'm not proud of it but dusting it every single week religiously isn't something to be particularly proud of either.
I am trying to pull my weight, but I can definitely tell that I am catching up to her in housework productivity. And, from most anecdotes I hear, this is a very common (though obviously not universal) phenomenon.
How do we know that the solution is "men should do more housework" rather than "women should do less"? Is it really a disaster if the toilet bowl gets cleaned half as often?
Not only would it look hypocritical to not enter into a relationship because someone doesn't fit into traditional gender roles, it would disqualify one from being a feminist altogether.
That mentality is one of the reasons we need feminism. Women will only become increasingly equal to men as time goes on. If we blindly cling to antiquated, unrealistic notions of what constitutes an acceptable partner, we impede progress.
I spoke to a divorce lawyer and as someone getting married in a few months I asked him what made marriages fail. He said that "It's mostly out of your control, when men come in it is mostly because their wife has been unfaithful. When women come in it is mostly because the man has lost his job." He also said that women seem to tolerate a great deal of infidelity on the part of the man up until the point where he stops earning.
Sort of makes me glad that I met my fiancee while I was very poor, hopefully I set the bar rather low.
If I knew my wife was considering divorcing me because because I lost my job, she wouldn't have to consider it any longer because I'd get the ball rolling.
I suspect that there are deeper compatibility issues at play and major events like infidelity or job loss just act as catalysts for divorce.
It's comforting to think that, but human nature is what it is. The typical woman would not immediately hire a divorce lawyer if her husband lost his job, but after a year or two she'd definitely be thinking she could do better (regardless of "fault").
Humans are complicated. They have a lot of different needs that all have complex relationships with one another. Everyone experiences theses needs to varying degrees. If the needs that aren't adequately satisfied aren't outweighed by those that are, then it's reasonable for a person to start looking elsewhere to satisfy those needs.
If my wife became a huge economic burden and wasn't contributing anything else to the relationship, then after a year or two I'd definitely be thinking I could do better.
If that were true, would it not be equally likely that husbands would initiate divorces when their wives lost their jobs, and women would initiate divorces when their husbands cheat? (I.e., a contradiction of GP's claim - but your comment doesn't sound like you intend to contradict him, but only explain the behavior he described.)
You could begin to support such an explanation by pointing out that less women work and so less women are able to lose jobs and so less men divorce them because of it. But that only explains half of the divorce inequalities described by GP. Do men really cheat significantly less than women?
So we arrive at a point where either it's more socially acceptable for women to divorce men because of job loss than the reverse (GP correct), or it's more socially acceptable for women to cheat than men (GP incorrect).
Conversely, either it's more socially acceptable for men to divorce women for cheating than the reverse (GP correct), or it's more socially acceptable for women to be unemployed than men (GP incorrect).
Interesting!
Of course, this is all based on anecdote. Also maybe I oopsed and strawmanned inadvertently.
I think the best dates are essentially free. Go to a park with a bed sheet with the lunch you were going to eat anyway for example. That's only bus fare or gas as an input cost. Going to a bar and screaming over the music while you get shitfaced is no way to get to know someone.
As for how I got out of it. I got someone to give me my first job in IT. I was a cook prior to that. I'm not wealthy but I pretty much have everything I need.
If he were honest he would have identified another category of woman: she has put up with her husband while building her career, but now that she has either succeeded or satisfied herself that she won't, she has had one or more kids and realized she doesn't have to stay married to receive the benefits of her husband's labor. Maybe there have been some recent 911 calls about "domestic violence"?
Although, as you say, that's still out of the husband's control.
Good point but there's nothing that precludes these assigned/expected roles in a LT relationship from changing or evolving in the future and for persons in the relationship to adapt to the new dynamics and realities.
This may be true now, but there's a trend of women accepting that a man earns less (or even sometimes doesn't have a job) as long as she doesn't yet want to have a baby, and the man looks hot. It's still all about supply and demand.
Seriously, where can I find those? It seems to be an incredibly good and responsible attitude that would radically change the face the world, and, as a man, I'm dying to see such behavior happen. Does this trend have newspapers or forums where they share this positive attitude, so I can witness it and bump up my faith in my future?
In my experience the baby has nothing to do with it - I know at least 3 women who have married that guy+, and now have a happy marriage and a kid. 1 of them even describes himself as a house husband with a side gig. Money isn't everything - particularly if you have lots of it.
+ well hot, smart, and having lived interesting lives by 35. That describes all 3 of them.
The state has taken the place of the father as the primary bread-winner amongst the working class in the west. Prior to universal welfare most women would never have risked pregnancy outside a stable relationship because of the financial risks. There are no risks now, in fact there is actually an incentive single mothers get more money via state benefits that a single women with similar qualifications can earn in work.
Some say the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I’ve tasted of desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
But if it had to perish twice,
I think I know enough of hate
To say that for destruction ice
Is also great
And would suffice.
I rather think the choices are self-destruction through violent conflict and self-destruction through lack of purpose/lethargy. But maybe that's only nation states. Or maybe I just have an unreasonably glum view of human nature.
Maybe, but a lot of shit heads are unemployed, and a lot of men who become unemployed become shit heads too. I read in a related article posted here that most prime aged men who've given up on the labor market aren't doing more child care, aren't doing more work around the house, are watching more TV and using alcohol and drugs more. So, basically, they're shit heads, either because they're out of work or with that cause and effect flipped.
Calling them shit heads for 'giving up' when they feel the deck is stacked against them is an oversimplification that avoids the issue. I think we're seeing in western culture what has been happening in Japan for the last 20 years. Herbivore men who simply evaluate the marketplace and decide giving up on working, women and a family and sticking to a life of video games is their best risk/reward option.
If you recall Maslow's hierarchy from high-school psychology, you will understand that if non-working men still have shelter and food (and television and internet in many cases) they have their most fundamental needs met. Internet (porn, games) provides sexual satisfaction and a sense of winning at something, leaving little in the way of motivational pressure to do more. TV is there as catch-all distraction in case lingering guilt remains.
The evidence doesn't justify it and there are more sophisticated theories that match up better. Furthermore the theory is quite centered around bourgeois western society. Maslow's hierarchy has a lot of prominence because it's peddled in shoddy high school curricula.
No, no I was calling them shit heads for their personality. This idea of a chronically out of work man whose wife leaves him isn't necessarily false, but also that it doesn't mean his wife left him because he's chronically out of work but because maybe he's a jerk. My mom and dad were married 30 years and for almost all that time my dad didn't work. She did leave him though, when he developed a meth habit and became delusional. Even though he didn't work, he did raise us kids, he did the shopping, the cleaning, the cooking, he ran the household. In other words he did what should be expected of someone in a genuine partnership: nothing more and nothing less than what he was able to do of what was needed. When he stopped doing that the partnership dissolved.
This "women want a higher earner" picture is a bit crude, and applying it to this situation ignores that men are often ass holes who aren't interested in a genuine partnership, and that category has some overlap with the chronically out of work.
Did you ever hear of a man losing his job, or getting ill, then shortly after his wife leaving? It's quite common.
It's very much both sex's perspective of role. Clichéd it may be, but there's a truth behind women preferring men with money, power or strength, or a combination of all.
I promise that women actually look at real porn. BHG is a fun magazine sometimes but very many of us actually like looking at and/or reading about people actually fucking. If you think we don't, it's probably because the women in your life are lying to you.
It's worth noting that job
loss often results in depression, especially if finding another job isn't easy for the person. That also tends to be a reason for divorce.
The depression results from failing to meet societal expectation. For example, he fears his wife and society at large thinks he's a bum now. Whether or not it's true, the depression is a result of the gender role.
> Did you ever hear of a man losing his job, or getting ill, then shortly after his wife leaving? It's quite common.
Okay well how exactly "common" is it?
> but there's a truth behind women preferring men with money, power or strength, or a combination of all.
And men prefer attractive women...so what?
The majority of these men are uneducated and unemployed. The article states many are HIGH SCHOOL drop outs.
I'm a male. and I can tell you right now that I probably would not marry a female high school drop out.
The problem to me is not the women. it's that boys are being left behind in school and more work needs to be done to educate and re-purpose males from unskilled drones to skilled or white collar workers.
The thing is, if men switch roles with women, they will not be picked by them. Men are not selected for their capacity to stay at home raising kids. This will not change. So while what makes women attractive to men is still working (more than ever! Just look at Instagram), the opposite isn't holding true anymore. What is the man women are looking for now? The one with hundreds of thousands of instagram followers and gorgeous pictures. They just wanna enjoy this same fake happiness online together. How long is this behavior be mainstream? I don't know. What comes next can be even worse.
Humans are half-way between a tournament species and a pair-bonding species. Pair-bonding species certainly do select males for their ability to raise children. So to you I say, not all women!
Raising children as in a man raising a children: providing, protecting, inspiring, been a role model. Not preparing food or babysitting. I agree with the final part, though: not all women. but biologically, the separation of roles is really well defined by past evolution. Perhaps we are heading in a different path now, and I guess that we'll be able to understand it only retrospectively.
Otherwise said, you go to work and don't do anything child related at home - oh, except projecting the "I am awesome look at me" level of confidence. (How else do you 'inspire' when you refuse to spend time caring about them.)
Frankly, I would not want such father for my children.
He/she wants a man that works, provides, inspires, has no vicious and also raise children. The very projected perfect man that is making men become less desirable partners.
While men still puts women's beauty as top (only?) priority.
You seem to conflate flicks or one-night stands and LT relationships. From my experience, women tend to choose marriage partners who are well-off and this is very understandable esp. in societies which are barely above the survival level or where women don't enjoy the full benefits and opportunities available to men.
I'm dating a gorgeous inspired woman. She doesn't have a Facebook account or an Instagram. I don't have a full time job. We have been living with my parents to save money during the winter, and bike touring / camping during the summer.
Or sideways. There's this tendency to look at the lower classes of history and assume that since we too are not 'the rich' our behaviour should follow the same patterns of our class in the past.
Today, the burden of household work has been cut to 1/10th of what it used to be, jobs are primarily intellectual, and education is paramount. The model to compare against is not the factory worker who was poor in the 1900s, and somehow due to a quirk of history became middle class in the 1950s.
We ought to compare against the gentleman class---those who in the 1900s had maids, butlers, personal transportation, and intellectual jobs akin to what we do today: management, clerking, accountancy, licensed professions, etc.
In those cases, people married sideways---intellectual women marrying men then helping to run the estate, daughters of merchants marrying other merchants and participating in the businesses, 'professional' socialites giving the entire clan a leg up by creating situations where networking was possible.
This is the position we have inherited, and if we must take lessons from the past--we should take lessons from the right class.
Sideways can include guys "of my class, but has fallen on hard-times". If a guy has some skills and all he really needs is a good network to help him find a job, that's fine too.
There's a lot more sideways than there is 'down'. Technically its pretty hard to even get to know people of a lower class than you; rarely do you mingle.
Wait, you actually think that men are just so tied up in their gender role of "manliness" to enjoy the benefits of all of the reproductive success that low-paying jobs would afford them?
So basically, you think men are given the following scenarios, but are choosing option A?
A) Be a man, don't compete for women's jobs, drink beer instead of going to work, likely don't have a girlfriend or get laid because you don't have your finances in order...
B) Be less of a man, compete for women's jobs, drink less beer and more wine at dinner parties, bite your tongue about the manliness and receive willing girlfriends and sexual partners...
Anyone with any sense will laugh at this above false choice implicitly being promoted.
Or what about, examining the sense of bitterness in yourself, so that you can hold yourself in esteem at dinner parties regardless of your work, or what you happen to be drinking, and enjoy the personal connections that develops, even if they don't result in getting laid
It doesn't seem like you're understanding my comment. I don't hold myself in low esteem - and the false choice I mentioned is about the political discourse I see, not any actual person. I'm curious how you're able to establish that I'm a bitter person - this just seems ad hominem.
Women are a lot more likely to go to college than men. [0] If you work in a factory, or planned to, you probably didn't go to college.
For all the attention that is given to the lack of women in CS and Engineering the story in aggregate for all majors is that women outnumber men at colleges. It's been that way since 2000 and the trend has continued in the past 17 years. Its to the point where women outnumber men two to one at some large schools like UNC which are, for example, 60% female. [1]
Unfortunately one of the results of that trend has been a lot of young women with less-than-useful degrees and mountains of student loan debt, working rather low-paying jobs. Which, to be brutally honest, makes them rather unattractive marriage partners, all other things being equal.
Very important point. Unequal distribution in higher education will exacerbate the issues raised in this post. Unfortunately, we are looking at a near future where increasingly large percentage of unemployed people in the West will be young, sexually unsuccessful males.
I haven't researched it deeply, but I wonder if it's better to assume that most two-parent families simply need two wage earners. Women tend to earn less than men, and might not be able to support kids plus a non employed husband on their income.
Anecdotally, I know at least two families in my neighborhood, in which the father stays home with the kids. One of the moms is a physician, and the other is a business executive.
That is incredibly naive. Most women with a stay-at-home man become resentful and see them as a drain on their resources. They rarely succeed even if the man does the child raising household chores etc. Of course there are plenty of successful cases but they're in the minority. The reason why women don't marry men who don't earn more than them is because they want a successful guy, and by that they mean one that can earn more than them.
"Fewer men were working in manufacturing, which tended to mean their wages were lower than they had been when manufacturing had more of a presence in their area. And their wages were not significantly higher than women’s wages, which they had been during the heyday of manufacturing."
> Why won't the men compete for the jobs the women are getting?
Because different people are suited to different jobs. Why didn't (and don't) women generally compete for manufacturing jobs? Because being a creative designer or HR professional or pre-school teacher or dental hygienist is something much preferred for certain types of people. Just look at the numbers [1].
Men not only don't want to do certain types of jobs, but in many cases can't - they're not well-suited for them. So even if/when they compete, they'll lose to less experienced women just entering the workforce. And vise-versa for other types of jobs with flipped genders. There are gender differences, plain and simple. You can argue why they exist, but for this discussion it's not as relevant at this point.
I would like to note that the next "industrial wave" could affect women pretty hard as well: artificial intelligence. Recruiting and HR software, health-care robotics technologies, therapist chatbots, etc, could upend the female-dominated jobs listed in [1].
> Alternatively, the men could stay home and take care of the kids while the women work at the jobs they have, providing the stable two-parent household.
Heh, I guess you haven't read many women's online dating profiles for what is acceptable in a mate and what isn't. You generally have to be higher up on the ladder (education, wealth, status, etc) to attract a woman for mating in the first place. How this manifests in data: 80% of guys are "below average"! [2]
But who needs data, ask your grandfather if he could have "stayed home and taken care of the kids while the woman works" and he'd laugh at you and tell you to stop being a sissy. They may not have been able to explain it, but older generations have typically understood more about human nature than we give them credit for.
What 'average' is being highlighted? Is this an actual average, or a perceived one? Either way it sounds harsh and reminds me of that XKCD comic that concluded there was no way to win 'the game of love'.
The traditional gender roles that formed alongside our evolution are broken today: men still crave women's affection, but women no longer need men to provide them. Because of this we were able to abolish traditional marriage, which was the only thing that kept the society sane. Yes, women were oppressed, but not without reason: women are hypergamous by nature.
There's a non-negligible population of fully grown virgin men with very little chance of marriage or reproduction. Can you give them a reason to work and be productive? Can you give them a reason to live? Mark my words, we'll hear more and more about lonely men going on shooting sprees or committing suicide (if anyone cares enough to report them).
That's completely unacceptable. We've banned this account.
If you don't want it to be banned, you're welcome to email hn@ycombinator.com and promise never to post anything like this again, or anything close to it.
It's fascinating to me how you banned this comment, but not the 400 comments above it that make basically the same point without saying these exact words.
8,000 years ago they estimate that 17 women reproduced for every 1 man[0]. In a society without work for most men, I suspect a similar ratio to arise again. Especially if we continue to tell young men to stop behaving like young men in order to attract women.
> This group includes Olivia Alfano, a 29-year-old single mother living in Evansville, Indiana, where she works as a waitress at Red Lobster. The money is pretty good, she told me: She drives a BMW and was able to buy a house last year.
Am I the only one who is surprised by that? (I don't live in the US)
In some towns, Red Lobster is a very popular resturant. Its pretty terrible, but is seen as a splurge for the lower class. With the splurge status, tips are often decent compared to other family friendly establishments. Homes are pretty cheap outside the city there. Used bmw's are dirt cheap here, for any doubt see LeMons racing, which is packed with em, at a $500 budget (sans safety gear).
In addition to the other replies we have this interesting social custom in the U.S. where certain jobs have been arbitrarily recognized as worthy of extra compensation by the paying customers (tipping). So with a number of states raising minimum wage combined with tips and given the right conditions of cost of living, frugal living, and money management I could see it being pulled off.
As a general rule, the minimum wage does not apply to "tipped" jobs.
"The American federal government requires a wage of at least $2.13 per hour be paid to employees that receive at least $30 per month in tips. If wages and tips do not equal the federal minimum wage of $7.25 per hour during any pay period, the employer is required to increase cash wages to compensate. As of May 2012, the average hourly wage – including tips – for a restaurant employee in the United States that received tip income was $11.82."
I think that you're misreading that: it states that: a different minimum wage (but still a minimum wage) applies to workers earning tips; and the standard minimum wage still applies if their wages & tips are insufficient to equal the minimum wage.
In other words, the minimum wage does apply, and even with tips the employer must pay at least some money.
Everyone I know who's ever worked for tips has tended to make quite a lot, considering.
I'd much rather the real cost just be built in to the experience. However as a single participant in the market I don't have much real hope of affecting that outcome.
Millions of Americans were "able to" buy houses in the mid-2000s. The problem is they bought these houses entirely on credit, wholly without the means to eventually pay for them. Cars are also a type of purchase Americans typically take on debt for. It is slightly more difficult to obtain a loan you shouldn't qualify for these days, but there's plenty of opportunity in the US for those who want to get in over their head.
The problem with a story like the quoted is that it presents the superficial elements of someone's lifestyle without giving any actual insight into the fundamentals (i.e., budget) on which the lifestyle is based.
So, I guess stuff like this might seem surprising to those unfamiliar with US culture. But my point is it may only seem surprising if the assumption is the person actually paid for those things. It's highly unlikely that a house, car, and kids are in the clear on a part-time waitress salary, and more likely that the person is up to her eyeballs in debt and neglected to mention it.
Probably all on credit. If your debit to income ratio (ironically, not a measure of your actual debit to income, but of how much money you have to pay off debts every month) is good enough, and your credit score is good enough (influenced mostly by using your credit and paying things on time), you can get some pretty huge loans out of the system.
IOW, it matters less if you're living with less than a month's worth of savings, so long as you can afford the payments and have a history of making payments; so here's a BMW.
In the comments it was mentioned that she was arrested for involvement in a Haitian cocaine distribution ring out of Miami 7 years ago (as per an FBI press release)
It's hard to say. The given information is consistent with either "nothing strange at all", OR someone who is living far above her means using credit, or has sketchy / black-market income sources.
For the "nothing strange at all" argument: Median home value in Evansville Indiana is $105700 [1] - even with a bog-standard 30 year mortgage at 4% with no down payment that's a monthly payment of only $505. A relatively small down payment ($20K via help from parents), and/or some fancy (unwise) 5/1 ARM financing could probably get you below $400/month mortgage payment. Depending on age and model and condition, a used BMW can be had for under $3K.
If she owns an above-average home and a new/expensive BMW, then I would say there are important details being left out.
An attractive woman could probably make $40,000 a year there, maybe a good bit more.
I worked at an similar restaurant back in the 2000s and cleared $25k a year working part time, mostly weekends. I'm an unattractive man. The attractive women I worked with would clear double what I made each shift.
Evansville is a cheap place to live, relative to the rest of the US. It's doable to raise a family on that salary with help from family for child care.
This article confused me a little, I think it's neither here nor there regarding a main point.
I mean, I get the basic facts, but I find it oddly jumping around between the men's situation, interjecting manual labor in fields that are dominated by women and then going off in the direction of single parents. Not that I would expect any kind of mentioning possible solutions, but this piece left me scratching my head a little .
For a really deep dive (albeit an overly-scholastic one) into this topic, check out _Those Who Work, Those Who Don't: Poverty, Morality, and Family in Rural America_ by Jennifer Sherman. It's a fascinating book (and makes me happy not to have been a logger).
Has anyone see the she beasts that the feminist community has put out ?
If men dont have to provide for wife and 2 kids, he is GOING to have a lot of money left over if he has a job, and working part time or not at all comes an option.
The recent mgtow movement is proof that men are sick of it and opting out.
This articles is a bit flippant. The study apparently outlines a problem in these regions both socially and economically. The articles then goes on to pick a single case in order to imply that it's actually good news for women - and by inference nothing for us to be concerned about.
You must have issue picking up social cues if you fall for every sob story.
The one bad thing about Hacker News is how many sheltered, 1st worlders there are in here that think everyone that isn't happy is an innocent victim of society.
I'm tired of seeing women who openly brag about how they "popped someone's child to get their money" through whatever means necessary: "Oops" babies (intentionally missing birth control pills), faking pregnancy to have unprotected sex and even breaking condoms... but when the man leaves: she's a victim, poor her, what a scumbag.
This happens every day all the time in the real world. And state policy has to be made upon it, unless it is your desire for it to be abused.
> The one bad thing about Hacker News is how many sheltered, 1st worlders there are in here that think everyone that isn't happy is an innocent victim of society.
Love how bizarre this specific line is.
Rest assured, I know what the real world is like. It's the same one we all live in, unfortunately, and we all see it through filters. Your filters have led you to prejudge people unlike yourself.
Mine lead me to think you're grossly misinformed, arrogant, and not worth talking to further.
> Rest assured, I know what the real world is like. It's the same one we all live in
Thanks for proving my point. Greetings from the privileged poor south american barrio I grew up in. And that wasn't ironic, as my dad was literally born in a mud hut and beat the odds to provide me a comfortable life where I can read in a foreign language how willingly ignorant some people are as to appear virtuous.
Context. cd_cd is probably not talking about welfare beneficiaries in South American barrios, and neither am I. The article this thread is about focuses on a US phenomenon.
You know nothing of my life, as I know nothing of your life. Do not presume to know me because of where I live. I only know your attitude as expressed here in your comments, and that attitude is awful.
Given context, I assumed you were yet another US conservative with a bad attitude about poor people because he saw a mother with junk food in her shopping cart once.
My assumption about your assumptions about me were correct.
My assumption about where you live was correct.
I don't presume to know you as a person, but I am rather confident about what some of your beliefs are from what you've said and where you've said it. There's a reason why your government has a hard-on for the world's metadata.
And for someone that speaks for the world as being one and the same for everyone, it is surprising how quickly you attribute the findings of the article as only applicable to human beings living in the US (even if the study was on the US). What is inherently "american" in this behavior that limits it to your country's borders? And what makes poor people in the US so different from poor/lower middle class people from over here, that they could not possibly be using the same manipulative tactics?
It is funny, because one of the things I like about american rap music is how often black american rappers express in their lyrics about how these same abuses that happen over here, affect their communities. Yet you find an alien concept in what I'm telling you.
Maybe instead of pointing fingers about attitudes, you should try lending an ear to your own less-privileged neighbors if you want to know the difference between the theory of what you preach, and how it actually affects them.
I...am not even going to go through and read all that. You either have me confused with someone else, or you're on so many levels of prejudging that you aren't actually talking to me. This whole thing is bizarre.
We have a lot of respect for the different backgrounds people come from when posting to HN, and yours sounds extraordinary. Still, you've gone way off-topic and way into incivility here, and the site guidelines don't allow that.
Mutual misunderstanding seems to have gotten in the way, and when that happens both sides need to take a step back and consider how to get clearer—and be more respectful, not less. Please do that when commenting here.
Your comment was unsubstantive and unduly personal, so it's not surprising it led to misunderstandings and a flamewar. Please don't do that here, least of all on divisive topics.
The article implies that it's solely the woman's decision to marry, but the reality is more complicated. Many men are choosing not to marry since it is fraught with economic risk to do so. This has been building for a generation.
> “You don’t want to marry a man who is in all likelihood not economically viable, because it’s not a free lunch,” Autor said.
"Not economically viable" is the exact phrase used in the movie "Falling Down" by the man who was denied a loan by a bank and was arrested while the Michael Douglas character looks on sympathetically. His wife ditched him, too.
Polygamy is largely a function of Ego of both men and women.
Women seek to acquire capital, status, and for their children to inherit the ego (mostly society's view of that ego) of the alpha male. Men seek to monopolize reproduction, as well as build a society that is secure to them, growing their ego's and power until they monopolize reproduction. Ego reaches it's peek when one believes they are omnipotent and omniscient, and spread that belief to the rest of society. Greek and Roman Gods are very much so an ego trip trying to continue itself. When times are good, we get war and harems. When times are bad, we get the downfall of society due to infighting. Very few individuals are happy with this arrangement, which is why it's been torn down so many times over the millennia. E.G. It's a common saying, the first generation builds the business, 2nd generation runs it, 3rd generation ruins it, and the history of empires tends to follow that trend. There's a reason we replaced Polytheism with monotheism, and that's so no one man could aspire to become a God. There's a reason why priests weren't supposed to marry and have children; clergy were the spiritual leadership of an ego driven society, trying to drive that society in a constructive direction.
Monogamy is the practice of making the maximum investment in offspring that is feasible. The closer the union between man and women, the more complete the children will be; if the couple unconditionally loves each other, the child will unconditionally love themselves which comes out as confidence later in life. They also make every investment they can in their children (instead of in a bigger ego; bigger house, luxury car, vacations, and so forth). This in turn forced women to marry men for their physical, moral, emotional, and intellectual traits which was an indication you'd be a good breadwinner but more importantly, that the resulting offspring would be good members of society.
What we've had in the last 60 years largely is a psychological war waged on the population in order to further the ego of the corporation or state. Ultimately, this is a self-defeating path; the ego of the corporation and state will ultimately monopolize reproduction but this prevents society from delivering to the state and corps what they need to survive. Ultimately, games of wage arbitrage have resulted in an economic system where the financial markets no longer represent actual production, and where investment in society has dwindled to the point we need to put in place unabated immigration, student loans, H1B's, and Outsourcing in order to continue propping up an already collapsed political system and economy.
Democracy was originally invented to control the egos of leadership; Trump being elected is simply the electorate hiring someone who is completely against the ruling class and will tear them down, and this is not the first time this has gone on, although the volume of bitching the ruling elites have done is quite epic. First he's going to do away with the subsidies; H1B's, Immigration, eventually Student loans. Then he's going to begin up large corps while simultaneously restoring the middle class's income who will in turn, form their own tribal governing bodies and lobbying bodies. That in turn will bring the corporations and state in check.
Women who chase ego never win, let them, ignore them, go find someone else. They will get what they deserve.
Polygamy is largely a function of Ego of both men and women.
Women seek to acquire capital, status, and for their children to inherit the ego (mostly society's view of that ego) of the alpha male. Men seek to monopolize reproduction, as well as build a society that is secure to them, growing their ego's and power until they monopolize reproduction. Ego reaches it's peek when one believes they are omnipotent and omniscient, and spread that belief to the rest of society. Greek and Roman Gods are very much so an ego trip trying to continue itself. When times are good, we get war and harems. When times are bad, we get the downfall of society due to infighting. Very few individuals are happy with this arrangement, which is why it's been torn down so many times over the millennia. E.G. It's a common saying, the first generation builds the business, 2nd generation runs it, 3rd generation ruins it, and the history of empires tends to follow that trend. There's a reason we replaced Polytheism with monotheism, and that's so no one man could aspire to become a God. There's a reason why priests weren't supposed to marry and have children; clergy were the spiritual leadership of an ego driven society, trying to drive that society in a constructive direction.
Monogamy is the practice of making the maximum investment in offspring that is feasible. The closer the union between man and women, the more complete the children will be; if the couple unconditionally loves each other, the child will unconditionally love themselves which comes out as confidence later in life. They also make every investment they can in their children (instead of in a bigger ego; bigger house, luxury car, vacations, and so forth). This in turn forced women to marry men for their physical, moral, emotional, and intellectual traits which was an indication you'd be a good breadwinner but more importantly, that the resulting offspring would be good members of society.
What we've had in the last 60 years largely is a psychological war waged on the population in order to further the ego of the corporation or state. Ultimately, this is a self-defeating path; the ego of the corporation and state will ultimately monopolize reproduction but this prevents society from delivering to the state and corps what they need to survive. Ultimately, games of wage arbitrage have resulted in an economic system where the financial markets no longer represent actual production, and where investment in society has dwindled to the point we need to put in place unabated immigration, student loans, H1B's, and Outsourcing in order to continue propping up an already collapsed political system and economy.
Democracy was originally invented to control the egos of leadership; Trump being elected is simply the electorate hiring someone who is completely against the ruling class and will tear them down, and this is not the first time this has gone on, although the volume of bitching the ruling elites have done is quite epic. First he's going to do away with the subsidies; H1B's, Immigration, eventually Student loans. Then he's going to begin up large corps while simultaneously restoring the middle class's income who will in turn, form their own tribal governing bodies and lobbying bodies. That in turn will bring the corporations and state in check.
Women who chase ego never win, let them, ignore them, go find someone else. They will get what they deserve.
A lot of the lessons here need to be built into the raising of young men. I can't claim to know all the topics we need to master, but hyping up and honoring any domestic labor has to be up there. Keeping a household running well is no joke. If you give any population a limited set of options for self and social worth, you're gonna have a bad time.
Sadly, I feel like a great number of comments in this thread could be summarized as:
If a woman prefers a man with wealth or status, she's a gold-digger, and feminism is wrong about women -- they want traditional gender roles. Women are just naturally drawn to wealth and status despite what feminism says they should want.
If a woman has sex with a man regardless of his wealth or status, she's a slut. Feminism is wrong about women -- they are naturally attracted to "bad boys", not "Good guys" who are responsible and work hard. "Good guys" are being cheated out of sex by women. If they support feminism despite the fact that women no longer value social/economic status, which reduces their chances to have sex, they are "white knights".
If a woman won't have sex with a man, it's because she's a frigid bitch -- feminism has made men irrelevant. Feminism is responsible for suicide bombers and spree killers because they couldn't get sex from women.
It's amazing to me how much pseudoscience and entrail-reading comes into discussions of gender. It's so tightly linked to our experience of the world that it's almost impossible not to spin one's own experiences into quasi-rational explanations.
For example, this quote from the article: "A substantial number go on to have children with a second partner, or even a third, creating complex and unstable family lives that are not good for children."
Says who? Human beings have pretty much always lived in extended clans with "complex family lives". The nuclear family is a pretty recent invention in the history of homo sapiens. The whole article seems to be trying to paint a picture that humans lived in nuclear families from the dawn of time to just a few years ago -- that it is taking children away from the way they are meant to be raised. In fact, this is bringing humans closer to the way they've pretty much always lived, in extended clans with complex family trees, with incredibly complex language for describing those relations.
"This creates challenges for the people (usually women) who have to raise a child without the economic or social support of a partner. Their struggles are why the authors see such an uptick in children living in poverty in the aftermath of a decline in manufacturing employment."
This is just terrible writing. Women raising children without support of a partner would, by definition, not be affected by the decline in jobs for men. The whole article (and many of the comments here about it) are filled with these kinds of self-refutations and self-fulfilling prophecies. People just start with a conclusion when it comes to gender and work backwards.
I'm wary to offer my own opinions on these issues, because they might be just as full of confirmation bias, question begging, and social proof-seeking. Maybe human beings are just really bad at discussing this topic.
> For example, this quote from the article: "A substantial number go on to have children with a second partner, or even a third, creating complex and unstable family lives that are not good for children."
> Says who? Human beings have pretty much always lived in extended clans with "complex family lives". The nuclear family is a pretty recent invention in the history of homo sapiens.
I think the article is saying complex AND unstable, not complex THEREFORE unstable. The assumption being instability is bad, complexity alone isn't bad, but both together can be worse than instability alone.
> "This creates challenges for the people (usually women) who have to raise a child without the economic or social support of a partner. Their struggles are why the authors see such an uptick in children living in poverty in the aftermath of a decline in manufacturing employment."
> This is just terrible writing. Women raising children without support of a partner would, by definition, not be affected by the decline in jobs for men.
I think the assumption there is that before these women would have a partner with a full time job, but instead they have no partner and have to work + raise a child. This isn't saying that women who didn't have a partner before are worse of now, it is talking about a demographic shift from having a partner to not.
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As a female engineer perpetually in male dominated environments whether at work or at a bar being served mostly by male bartenders who I have come to build a repore with. It ends up being a casual mutually beneficial way to exchange banter and discuss social life but get perspectives and experiences from people who lead very different lives, and here is what I find. I find that most lower middle class men struggling to find jobs who have a complaint about this DO NOT have an issue finding women. They have an issue with women who do not financially contribute, and trap them into paying child support for a kid they never planned on having, and women who feel entitled to men being the sole provider, stripping away their freedom, and them men are trying to get away from women and commitments, not towards them. They are looking to travel and have experiences and do things they enjoy instead of repeating the failures they saw their parents go through. Theyve seen their parents fight over money, their dads lose jobs, their parents get divorced and I don't know who is asking for that life back but I think its the older men who lost everything because I don't know any noneducated man my age that actually wants that, they are running away from it at all costs.
I not only find this with lower middle class men but men I work with as well. They are getting sick and tired of being manipulated by women and trapped into families they never planned to or agreed to and being expected to do all the work financially for the rest of their lives...
I find in male dominated environments with men of higher socioeconomic status, that they end up dating financially needy women who are incentivized to lock them into a long term financial relationship because theres not enough economically independent women to date.
Additionally, I find women like me tend to be much more attractive to them for the reason that working women doing well and climbing the socioeconomic ladder by ourselves are attractive because we have ambition, which in their socioeconomic stratus is not something they are conditioned to, so not only is it attractive because you have more in common to talk to someone about, but its also from their point of view rather exotic and rare, and thus instantly more desireable. While a comment below stating chinese stats is generally worriesome, in America, the issue is not that lower income men can't get women, its that they cant get the women that they want. While most of the comments talk about how these women need to be more openminded, I find myself as a socioeconomic 26yr old woman progressing in my technical career in engineering and software development, I find that there is not nearly enough women, and that we need many more.
IF this happens (and that happening whether its happening and causes behind it happening or not is a WHOLE different discussion) over time then the standards men have for women will raise. While these men are pining after women who in reality don't exist in great numbers, just highly highlighted, the other 95% of women are incentivized to compete on a personal and economic level if they find men on their level and above their socioeconomic level are choosing women who make their own money, and they will begin to understand they are the only ones providing for themselves and over time women will seep into previously considered male dominated environments and take on more management and leadership roles.
Over the long run, this will hopefully allow men and women to engage in short or long term relationships or whatever they choose as we all become more accepting and openminded based on the person and less on the economic benefits they can provide. Progress is painful, and as one of the few women pioneering in it, I get pressure form men i work with to date and marry, men who serve me drinks to date and marry, and I get hate and drama from all the girls who are mad at me for making more money than them (who have no problem dating men with money but lots of problems with women making money, and can't seem to solve that issue in their head)
In general, its not as glamorous as it seems if you are actually a full time, preference for low drama female with your career as your first priority. Women like us are highlighted as the pain point of the issue, but we are not the cause of it, and over time hopefully the solution.
The other complaint I have about this whole argument is if women are getting a higher socioeconomic status while men complain they don't have jobs, then there are clearly jobs, they are just stereotypically female jobs, so instead of men complaining that the universe isnt entitling and providing them to the (in the grand scheme of things incredibly fleeting and nonpermanent manufactoring jobs) they should be more open to becoming nurses, teachers, government jobs and other jobs that are clearly in a great shortage for that women are not only working full time side jobs while taking night classes to become nurses and etc but raising kids while doing it often times as a single parent.
If they can do it men can do it, they just don't want to because its an uncomfortable stereotype to break, but in WWII many women stepped into manufactoring jobs to fill the void in America, so men need to do the same thing.
For now its a bit of an awkward phase for men because they are used to being the ones that get to choose and women have always been very willing to compete in looks and otherwise to get access to that financial stability as it was the only socially acceptable way to do so for so long without permanently striating yourself into a considered deplorable condition.
Men need to realize over time women becoming more independent is a good thing for everyone. Gorwing pains will always exist in society, its how we adapt to them that makes both men and women successful and competitive candidates in the working field and in the personal relationship realm.
This ongoing complaint I keep hearing about men wanting to fall back into manufactoring jobs and women getting jobs is a more a complaint about how they wish things would never change and how they want people to accomodate them instead of steering the dicsussion to how to adapt to reality.
I wonder if the universal basic income will be enough to make the societal shift needed in this case.
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