"She went to Germany since she had German citizenship (he didn't)."
They were married and had been for a long time (i.e. demonstrably not a "sham marriage"). The husband would have got a permanent residency and work visa in Germany.
The sad thing is, is that without her husband, her case for immigration is probably much weaker. From the article, it doesn't sound like she has a job, her and her child were totally dependent on the husband. These aren't the kinds of immigrants that we setup our policies to bring in.
In the article she said that she was worried that even if she escaped her mother or sister could be hurt. While the local law enforcement should protect her if her husband is abusive, there is nothing they can do about threats in a foreign land.
The obvious question I have: How did she handle the visa situation? I know lots of people do it, but doing housekeeping jobs while on a visa is technically illegal, and they really started cracking down on it after Sep 11.
1. Analogies don't contribute to a debate since they're not based in reason, but in confirmation bias. You're trying to transpose the emotional connotations from one situation to a completely unrelated one.
2. She admits herself that she knew she couldn't stay out of the country for 2 years. There was a law, which she was aware of, and chose not to follow.
No, really. She's Hungarian and her entire life she's been in terror of what the police might do if one draws their attention. It's a little different from marrying a North American.
It's also different if you're just minding your own business and the cops come and arrest you - but I will bet they'd had words about this beforehand, then the cops came and arrested her.
And yeah, their marriage may not have been on such a solid basis anyway, who knows? Or, she's just a jerk. But it wouldn't take much of a jerk to really resent getting arrested for somebody else's windmill tilting.
That is wonderful news, thank you for sharing it. Given how things are, I thought something had to be done for her to still be in the country. Kudos to Yoder for stepping in and helping there.
She was probably one of the most driven women I've ever seen. I had immense respect for her.
She hadn't been back to see her family for 10 years for fear of not being able to come back due to not having her green card yet. She finally got it and we were all super happy for her.
What you're saying might be true, I never got a good sense of how rich or poor her family was, but she was always studying, always trying to be better. It was a very sharp contrast to most/all Americans I know.
She came to this country through drive rather than money, of that I have no doubt.
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